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Keri, my thoughts are with you also...... My wife and I have a situation not unlike yours or that of Fred. Our elder daughter has a four-year-old daughter we have never been allowed to see, due to a stupid, minor misunderstanding with her partner, 9 years ago. She is intransigent despite several attempts of ours to bury the hatchet, and accept full blame for what was not ours to feel completely at fault for. Even offered to go along to a mediator of her choice, at a time and place of her choice; but to no avail. Thankfully, our younger daughter and husband had no such views, and we have been able to have a very close relationship with their 3 children. All grown up now, all teenagers, but still very fond of us as, of course, we are with them. The younger daughter says 'don't worry about her (her sister), it's her loss', but that doesn't help a lot. We went along to consult a solicitor specialising in family law to find about about 'Grandparents rights'. Grandparents rights; what a joke that is!! No such thing.......if the mother says 'No (you can't see my child)' then that's the end of the matter. No judge, in court, would grant a grandparent access to their grandchild under any circumstances once the mother has taken that stance. We joined the Grandparents' Association but they could offer no hope or advice on how we might get see our young granddaughter. Brian; ;~)

Harry I get many happy days now, its just that on times something awful happens and once again I visit the what I call 'the blue room' but then someone comes along and opens the door again and the happy times pull me through. I did not expect to smile today or feel the warmth of friendship, I had invisaged today as being a truly sad day , it still is- but thank you all for making me smile keriXX

My feelings are the same as Joy states. Very best wishes. happy days(ahead. hopefully)

((((Big Hug))))....just for you Keri...must be heartbreaking. As for the 'twins'....I too have twins & they went through school being called 'the twins'...it will wear off as they get older... :)

Keri, Thinking of you Love and hugs June xx

I wish I could find the right words to help but can't, but I send my support to you. :-) Joy

Do you know Paul I thought that too, but sometimes it serves as a painful reminder of all the things you miss seeing, first steps etc, but the one thing I do really greive in all of this is my right to be a g/ma, to be able to do all the things g/parents do with their g/children whilst still enjoying the freedom you get as a couple when your own kids have flown the nest, and I have also lost one other thing and that is I do not have the daughter that I so wanted to spend time with, go shopping with, buy a wedding dress with etc----------- However would I change what I have - NOT ON MY LIFE --I am incredibly blessed, but it has'nt come easy, there's just a little piece of me that grieves its loss.

KERI, it must be heart breaking for you! what a strong woman you are! Take comfort in that ebony and amber are together in a stable home where they will be loved, maybee when their old enough to understand they'll find you again. best wishes to you all. xxx

No Claire - I'm just the avearge person that came from humble beginnings, that was fortunate to enjoy a childhood full of love and with younger siblings that I really adore. I was brought up to believe that family were everything you ever needed - my mum had an awful childhood, she brought me, my two brothers and my sister up in the belief that we should always kiss and hug each other hello and goodbye as that may be the last time we saw them keri x

Keri, At least you still have Hope and Anna, more than many grandparents, it must soften the blow a little surely... although the pain will never go away totally, I hope that its true what they say, and that time does heal.. and that each year that passes gets less painful for you. Paul

(((keri))) you sound like one heck of a person! Claire xx

hI i'm back home again- just taken the twins to preschool, do you know I actually hate the girls being referred to as 'the twins ' and I've just realised that I have done it everytime I have added to a tread, anyway my friends their names are Hope and Morganna (who we call Anna), they bring me so much joy Fred I am so sorry that you are going through it as well, I applaud you for searching for your g/children, do you have any contact with them now? I still support my daughter emotionally which is not easy to do, as she continues to live in a world that few of us will ever understand, I just live in hope that one day she will climb out of the pit she's in. keri x x

Huge pink hug!! Diana xx

Chin up Keri,it is very hard but you will survive,and like Liz and i you have other grandchildren.In our case ,the daughter put two of our g/children into care ,and it took two years to find them ,we disowned her and have never seen four of our grandchildren from her second marriage,so i do know what you are going through ,enjoy the ones you can spend time with ,and hope for better news ahead.Fred.PtfA&G&G&S.

From one Nan to another. ((((HUGS))))) Thinking of you Linda x

As a grandmother I can understand your pain after your loss, but no person can take away the love you feel. Be strong for the twins and one day the family may meet up again, when the children will know that it was because you loved them that you wanted the best for them. I will be thinking of you and all your beloved grandchildren.

Much love hugs and xxxxxx Keri Love Helenxx

keri sending u a hug xxxx

Keri (((hugs))) to you on such a sad day. I can't imagine how you are feeling, but what i do know from reading your threads about your grandchildren is that you a one heck of a grandmother. The twins will know as they grow how loved and lucky they are to have you. Thinking of you. Yvette

oh Keri, your love for these little girls will ALWAYS be in their hearts, You are just a heartbeat away from them xx