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In answer to your question, yes constantly. I've only felt like this since the birth of my son five years ago. I'm sure it's because you have someone so dependant on you, you worry what would happen if you were'nt around or maybe it's because I'm on the wrong side of thirty!! Oh well,when it happens, none of us will know about it anyway!! It doesn't help digging up all these old rellies either, what a constant reminder!! Going now, to have some happy thoughts!!! Carol

It's not really the dying I am afraid of but don't much relish the bit leading up to it.

I think when I was younger I thought I was immortal. I mean, I knew that I would die one day as everyone does, but I didn't believe it. I became very aware of my mortality when my father died, and I can empathise with Carol - once you are a parent you feel you have a duty to preserve yourself to look after your children. I can remember being at home with my first son and thinking that one day he would have to cope with my death and bawling my eyes out at the thought. So I am more cautious now - I was never reckless, but I am more careful in crossing the road, I always look for fire exits when I go to a new building etc. not in a neurotic way, just in a sort of precautionary way. I do feel I must live until my sons are both grown. Someone did read my palm once and told me I would die at 60 but I'm not convinced. nell

Yes, the first time I woke up at one in the morning suffering with gall stones (didn't know at the time). I cannot describe the pain it went on for a couple of hours and I was throwing up because of the pain, I couldn't catch my breath very scary. It happened again on the ferry home from Ireland, my Dad tried to get me air-lifted off he thought he was losing me, hubby knew what was going on so didn't panic. Had my Gall Bladder out last year - relief. Although had another scare i had a reaction to the anesthetic, a bit like a stroke, that was scary at 35 years old. Rebecca

I've had one near-death experience and was terrified. My biggest fear is not for myself but for my family. I've always been the strong one and I hate the thought that if I die I'M not going to be there to look after everyone. Becx

Yes I have felt I was going to die. In 1999 I had surgery and the surgeon botched it. I developed internal bleeding and my blood pressure dropped like a stone. If it hadn't been that night nurse noticed the pressure drop, I am told odds were against me surviving that night. Ten hours after the original operation I was back in for more surgery to repair the problem. My hubby says that the first thing I said when I came around was that I had seen my dad in the operating room. He had died 3 years earlier, I like to think he was watching over me that night. Teresa in Calgary

bout 10 yrs ago i was involved in a fairly serious road traffic accident a lorry hit us and pushed us into and along the central reservation of the M25 i was certain i was gonna die than but wat was worse for me was that i was certain my children were gonna die too i turned round in the car to put my hands out to them and to try to see them we were very lucky that day !!!!

OH all you lovely people and what you have been through Kal take care,and Bec how selfless of you thinking of others first. Dx

good morning everyone im new to this board,im not afraid to die i n 1989 i had cancer,and when i went to the hospital the doctor said do you no what you have,and i replyed yes i have cancer and he ask how long had i known,i said six months so he said you have two opitions have the op or die,and i turn to him and said now mybe you might think this silly,i said i would give my life tomorrow if it would help the young children,and he said your only 49 but to me i had my life or most of it .some of these young kids dont get achance,and thats the way i feel sometimes i think what if i die who will look after my kids and then i say,there all married so no need to worry.and thats my little story.have anice weekend and the only reason i didnt go the doctors i was scare.joyce from holland.and im still going strong will be 65 next month

Well done Joyce how selfless you are and Im so glad you are still here to tell your story,here's to the next 25 years for you. Dx

I have a slight phobia of death and sometimes i get so emotional and cry and think about when i die all the people that i won't see again etc and i think of when people close to me are going to die what it will be like so far the only close person to me who has died is my gramps he died when i was 9 years old and that was just the worst thing ever made worse by the fact that i found him it was horrible. I didnt actually know he was dead i was staying over at my grandparents and he was sick so i went to give him a kiss goodnight and he was freezing so i told my nan to make sure she took him a hot water bottle to make him warm obv my nan knew straight away but he was only 57 years old!!! Like you Dave i have an age where i am sure im going to die i dont know where it comes from but im sure im going to die when i am 30 years old. I dont know how or where but i have felt that since a very young age. i have 7 years to go till im 30 obv i am èraying i am around longer than this.

Claire how awful for you to find your Grandpa.Im sure you will get past it like I did, but it does worry you doesnt it when you have this age in your mind. Davex

Yes Dave it is extremely scary i just keep thinking of all the things i want to do before 30 im sure like you said i will get past it but it is such a scary thought and its strange why some of us are like this and have a particular age in our head why does this happen?? Who knows!!

hi dave b thank you its just what i would do and im sure there are other people who would do the same thing,without question.joyce from holland

dave i still fear that.my biggest fear is dying before my daughter is old enough to have someone to look after her.a partner.her children.that frightens me greatlyxxxxx):

Really stupid, but I stayed at Alton Towers last year and every time I went on a ride I thought I was going to die and had a really crap time until the final ten minutes when I opened my eyes and instead of holding my breath I screamed, then I loved it.

I am affraid of leaving my little one as i cannot be appart from her and we have such a bond i feel she would be lost without me... I don't fear death itself though, i belive in the afterlife and think i will be well looked after, also i would be reunited with all my pets i've lost over the years, it would be nice to see them all again! xx

Wow,some amazing stories . I have faced death three times in my life. Once when my last child was born and everything went very wrong.Next when I was badly beaten up when Chinese thieves broke into my house in Hong-Kong. I watched it from somewhere at ceiling level as I had left my body. Finally I had a stroke at 48.I just knew I was dying and I was so calm and happy and not in the least afraid. My husband came home and found me unable to talk to him and called the ambulance and I survived.I do not fear death . Rose

Dave, I went into hospital about 10 years ago for an op on my neck as they came to collect me with trolley I did a runner in gown, I just knew that if I had anasetic (spelling) I would die.Much coaxing off nuns but to no avail, only realised later I had had a panic attack lol. I was scared though. suex

Can I say thank you to everyone who has shared their stories. It must have been hard for some of you, but it has helped me no end. I have often lately worried about dying and how, and when, for no apparent reason. I am not generally of a depressive nature, and am usually quite logical and sensible, but I have two little ones now and I suppose it is natural to think about the 'what if's'when you have someone so dependant on you. A close friend of mine recently had a close brush with death and I think it has made me realise that I am only human and it will happen one day.....but not yet!!! I am rambling I know, but you mad lot have helped me to see that perhaps I am not so bonkers for occasionally feeling a little morbid, BUT we all have a lot to live for and look forward to. Hence forth I promise to 'always look on the bright side of life' as they say and enjoy all the wonderful things I have.....ok I'll shut up now, I'm boring you! ;o) Claire xx