General Chat

I think you are being unfair CB. I understand that you were worried about your family and other peoples families and friends - I think we all were. But your thread was rather aggressive and I didn't reply to it because of the backlash I thought I would receive! No one was trying, in any way, to belittle what had happended today or what you were feeling; but some of us felt that a little 'trivia' to keep our minds from the awful events in London was not a terrible crime. How many threads can you have on one subject? I do understand where you are coming from, but I do not think that Philip was being a bully - he merely put across his own point of view in defence of the title of your thread and some of us happened to agree with him. Unfortunatley we can't all share the same opinions so please can we just agree to disagree on this occasion and leave it at that? Kaye x

If you think it's OK for Philip to be aggressive, that's up to you. If it was you he'd gone for, you'd see it differently. If you objected to there being so many threads about a national catastrophe, why not pick on the ones that appeared later in the day? Indeed, let's leave it that we disagree, but don't pick on me in future. CB >|<

I agree with CB When the thread was posted it was very relevant & Philip had no right to speak to her in the way that he did. He may have had a valid point to make but there was no reason to be so rude to CB or anyone else who was concerned about friends & family.

hi philip, my hubby is an ex squaddie, he served in ireland etc............ he has a much different view of these things than i have. which is totally understandable. please do not leave this board, i read some of your replies- and understood what you meant. i am sure you have seen things many of us never will see, or want to see... sue. xxx

Look I'm sorry you're so upset CB - I really don't mean to upset you. I feel that you are misinterpreting what I am saying and I am truly not picking on you. I had and still have no objections to the number of threads on this terrible attack and have added replies to many of them, but there was room for more 'trivial' threads too. Everybody deals with this sort of thing in different ways and I thought there was room for all opinions on here. Far from picking on you or attacking you I actually felt too intimidated by your thread to respond to it initially - I feared the backlash! I am sorry that you thought it insensitive for some of us to try to find some normality - but please believe me it was not intended that way. I do not wish to fight with anyone on here - I like to live and let live, so please accept that I meant no disrespect and do not leave the boards. Kaye x

CB i didnt start this thread to have a go at you , and hope you never took it like that, i added my understanding at your worrys on your thread, and hoped all was ok , as you didnt say if hubby and son had been in touch, i didnt see the thread in question, but just philips reply on your thread, and felt for the two of you, as it seemed like both were feeling shock at the days outcome, im sure he was worried about his family as his son may travel and pass through london, though i lived in surrey , we were pretty close to london and windsor, and i know my mum would have been on the phone had we still lived there, from what i read everyone felt understanding for you , but you seem cross with everyone, could be the shock and stress , just want you to know , i sympathise with all involved yesterday, and those who replied to this thread like twizz and philip if he reads this , im here to listen, you want a shoulder , im here, dont worry about telling me, write it down on here and itll help you im sure, well ill be in majorca for 2 weeks but feel free to mail me, click on my name and ill get it when i get back, i will be thinking of you , i promise, and CB i wasnt having a go at you by writing this thread

If posting trivia on this board is insensitive, does that make people posting on the other boards insensitive too? After all, peopel were offering Ancestry look-ups all of yesterday, and there were still many people on the Tips board. Two people posted stories on the Success Board. The London attacks were barely mentioned apart from on this board. There are an awful lot of people who did get on with their normal routine, and I don't think they can all be accused of being insensitive or uncaring.

Twinkle - that is exactly what I was trying to get across. I'm glad that at least someone isn't cross with me! Thanks Kaye x

some people can put it in words exactly what your trying to say and me i and up writing a russian novel

julie i agree.we were all emotionally charged yesterday.things were said that shouldn't have been.thats debate.xxxxx(:

CB i don't think your overreacting.philip was alittle quick to comment but i don't think it was meant as an attack.i have had loved one in a life death situation it's not nice.it's the worst thing in the world.love to youxxxxxxx(:

There are more important things going on in the world than having a 'go' at each other.. for one i thought that philip WAS out of order for the way he posted on CBs thread, he is entitled to his opinion but by reading the thread it was obvious that CB was very distressed and he should have a bit more compassion. Wether he was, is in the forces is completely irrelivent. This thread is doing nothing but stiring up trouble in an already troubled world even if it was not ment that way. It has offended CB and Philip doesn't need to read all of this arguing.. If i were you i would send him a PM and offer your support and spare the rest of us the stress and embarressment of this thread.. No offence ment, just my oppinion! x

This is the last I will say on the subject as I do agree that there are enough problems in the world without adding to them on here. I did send Philip a personal message but he has not come back on the boards - this thread was started not to cause trouble but to let him know that we didn't want him to leave. Although CB's thread was started early, I came on at 12pm and felt quite intimidated by it. I understand completely that people were upset and worried - we all felt that, but some of the remarks were very harsh. I just thought it was a pity that someone had been put off coming here ever again. K x

fairy thanks for that i wont remove the thread as its aim was to let anyone whose feeling shocked and maybe yesterday has brought back some bad memories for some, to let them say how they are feeling, its not meant to be mean, not meant to snipe at anyone, just giving their experiences , getting it off there chest so as they dont bottle up what theyve seen or experienced, i havent been nasty to anyone on here , neither CB or philip, if anyone wants to ave a go start their own thread, this is meant for getting it out of your head, ive read how steadies suffering and if it helps her to talk about it , shes more than welcome, all i want to do his help them, not be mean, im not that kind of person

You are right, it is a shame that someone should be 'put off' using the boards, we should all be able to get along and have respect for other people, especially in times like this. Everyone reacts in different ways (if we were all the same we would be very boring!) It is very admiral that you show support for Phillip but i would urge you not to do it at the detrement of another member, wether intentional or not.. please just think carefullt before posting... x

Oh, i also didn't mean you were 'having a go' other peoples replys on this thread are NOT using this thread as you have described it is to be used for and can be taken as quite offensive! xxx

i didnt do it at the detriment of another member , i supported both, clearly you didnt read this i can see how both are affected, bloody hell, i gave support to both , no, more than two actually, i dont want it thought of as admirable , its just me i try to help people , i rather give help than have a go, i hate hassle, i really do sympathise with how CB felt yesterday and said so , she must have been going through a nightmare, then i read how philip opened up about what hed been through, didnt see arguement in between, just felt both were hurting, i dont want to get in arguement on this thread or justify who i support, if someone feels better for talking let them, no arguements, just chat, no need to chuck rubbish at me, im trying to give support, hope this explains

It's ok Julie Anne - I think she's refering to me? I would like to add that I did think very carefully before posting on here - I didn't post on CB's original thread out of respect for those who were worrying etc. I have not been having a go at anybody - I stood up for someone whom I believed to have a valid point and who was put off this web site. I was had a go at then by CB for defending this man. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I prefer to live and let live - that was what I was expressing by standing up for Philip. Kaye x

I emailed my support to Philip personally as I did not want to get invloved in any kind of slanging match on the boards. Incidentally, for that reason this will be my last post! Bye Julie xxx

i couldntsend private mail as i avent got philips addy and not sure if hes new, im a bit lacking in the memory part for names