General Chat

Romance to me is finding something that you just know is the right thing or saying/doing the right thing at the right time. When I was 18 my OH was at uni in London and I went down to see him. We went to Kensington market and he bought me a tiny silver ring which I've always worn on my little finger. 2 years ago while we were on holiday I fell and broke my leg and bashed and bruised other bits of myself. After I was admitted to hospital and was up on the ward they came to dress my hands and I noticed the little silver ring had gone. I was heart broken. That night he went back to the place where I fell (30 miles from the hospital and 10 miles from where we were staying) with a torch to try to find the ring for me. He didn't find it but the fact that he tried after all we'd been through that day meant the world to me. As soon as I was out of the wheelchair and on crutches he took me to a jeweller to buy another. I think searching in the gravel on a cold, dark night when you are so tired you can hardly stand is more romatic than a bunch of flowers. Gwynne

No, it's not, Lisa! I don't get flowers as often as I used to, as my husband now travels home on more crowded trains and can't get them home without them being damaged, but they do arrive from time to time, especially if I'm feeling down. Last weekend I got two boxes of chox (OK, so they were BOGOF, but they still taste the same), and last month he brought me 6 T-shirts, a pair of jeans and a bottle of Frangelico liqueur from a business trip to the USA. Last year's business trips to the Far East and Middle East yielded two beautiful gold-embroidered silk saris, a set of jade jewellery, 4 t-shirts, two lengths of cotton lawn fabric, and a huge selection of incense sticks and spices. I've also just had a new PC and printer bought for me jointly by my husband and my son, so I've no complaints. We've always bought each other presents on a regular basis, and we usually buy something big for birthdays, Christmas and anniversaries, as we have no other relatives to buy for or to give us presents. CB >|<

Actually I'm very romantic & wear my heart on my sleeve - doesn't seem to have done me any favours tho!

Don't think mine even looks at me. After eight years of contact lenses I got new specs. I said to hubby 'what do you think?'. He asked for a clue! I pointed to my head and he asked if I'd had my hair done? I rest my case Beth :)

lisa, yes,i think i was quite a romantic husband,and then i had my heart broken,so if i ever met someone else,ime not sure i would be the same. bryan.

LOlxxxxxx(:

Oh dear! :O( NO COMMENT lol

we need to feel like lovers not just mothers and wives.what i would do for a weekend away just to feel the romance again.champagne on ice.feeling special.i haven't had that for a long timexxxxxx):

My husband went out shopping and came back with a gold braclet for me and on our anniversary ordered me a new eternity ring a quarter of a diamond and I am picking it up on Monday and Valentines day he replaced my engagement /wedding rings as my fingers got fatter so I have 2 sets

My husbands proposal 22 years ago went something like....... If we were married, i would get a married mans tax allowance, which will make us a few quid better off a month!!

ahh james that is so sweet.do you romance her still after all those years???xxx(:

Oh Lisa, what a shame - I'd be so upset if I put in all that effort and got no response. :-( Some men need a kick up the pants it seems! :-)

PMSLxxxxxxxxx(:

no but started going down when we got married.i suggested renewing our wedding vows.feel like it's a one way relationship sometimes.is it just me or does anybody else feel like this.a glorified housewife , mother ,and nothing elsexxxxx

My husband's idea of a marriage proposal was sitting in a pub bar watching a boxing match on TV. Without taking his eyes of the screen he said 'If we're still seeing each other on my birthdat we might get engaged'. I should have known then that it didn't get any better PMSL Beth :)

send him text messages everyday to say i love him.bought him teddies and cards.spend a fortune on helium balloons champagne.chocolates and cooked a nice meal with candles and all.but get nothing back.only get flowers when i moan.xxxxx):

elizabeth.what is it with men.when you first meet it's all lovely .romantic just like in the novels.roses,romance intimacy.then you get hitched and nothing.snoring farting thats about it.if there is any man that can say different make yourself knownxxxxxxx(:

My husband can be very romantic - lucky me :-) - but it is a two-way thing and I find that if we repond to one another with romantic gestures, and they only need be little ones, that the amount of romance in our relationship increases. Hope that makes sense.

Dead? it never lived in my hubby LOL Beth :)

is your partner or hubby spontanious.does he whisk you off to romantic destinations,buy you flowers etc.am i living in a dreamworld and expecting too much.is romance a two way thing.need advicexxxxxx(: