General Chat

I would like to thank everyone for their kind words and help-i hope to see you all again sometime soon. Please Take Care, R.B. X

RB, reading the replies it struck me that he sounds - and correct me if I'm wrong - a bit of a mummy's boy. You know, his mother causing friction again, HIM asking YOU to leave, etc. I found myself wondering how old he is, especially as he seems not to be worried about yours or daughters welfare. I may be way out of line for saying the above, but it's just an observation. It's a shame, especially as he appears to be playing right into his mothers hands. Good luck. xx

Had to go to bed last night. Desperately hope you can have a bit of time and space at your cousins to get things going your way. You have a daughter to protect and care for. Don't leave the house, as everyone else has said you need it more than he. Get somebody to speak to and help you find out what you can do and get. I really hope you can get the practical side sorted for when you return. Take care of yourself Dianex

I was just going to say, after reading more of the messages, that you MUST NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE. I know that much, I've been there. Many years ago, but the facts still stand, You need a home for your child and yourself. Please, do not go. As everyone else has said....... let him move in with his 'mummy' Good luck and don't forget to stick close to your little girl, she must be so upset. Deanna XXX

RB PLEASE DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME,Yes go to your cousin's but tell your husband that you will both be back after your week away. Even put it in writing to him and keep a copy of the letter as you will need it. If you LEAVE your home for good,and have to ask the council to rehouse you and your daughter you will be classed as making yourself and daughter voluntarily homeless and they won't do a thing for you. If he changes the locks while you are away then he will have to let you have a key to get back into the house. Tell your husband that you are not leaving the house as you need a home for your daughter and you have every right to stay there if the house is in JOINT names. PM me if you need to talk Hugs to you and your daughter. Sue

Oh darling, it is so awful for you, but I can not give you advice. It is something only you can sort out. what is wrong with the man? I always feel that you can judge a man by how he treats his mother and father, but they should NOT come before his wife and child. God Bless Deanna (((((((hugs)))))))

I feel terrible calling you Raggy all the time ,but have a wonderful time with your daughter try and relax and enjoy whatever you do, check it out though whilst you have cousin for moral support. Dont forget to give us an update when you get home, suex

Sue, i go every year around this time and my daughter is coming with me. R.B. xx

Raggy, are you taking daughter with you, not to worry you but you dont want him saying you walked out of marital home and left even though he knows trip been planned for a while.Or is he just showing off because your going to cousins! suex

Hi Jess, My daughter is my world and it hurts me to her the way she is at the moment. R.B.x

Will be thinking of you RB. Sarah x

Hi Diane, for the life of me i don`t know what i have.I made arrangments to see my cousin weeks ago and i am going tomorrow -not sure when i am coming back,whilst there i will seek advice on what i should do. Thank you everyone, R.B.xx

It sounds athough he has decamped (to his mothers?) by the 'phone him' comment. You stick your ground and stay where you are. your daughter doesn't need to be uprooted to add to her upset. If he has any shred of feelings he will understand this. Reassure your daughter that above all else even if you and daddy do not love each other at the moment you both still love her. Jess

I can't give any advice that you haven't already heard I'm afraid, but I do hope you get through this ok. Take Care Kaye x

Hi Raggy, like the girls say get legal advice, the world is all topsy turvy when your an 11 year old girl at the best of times.Be strong and the most important thing is try and explain whats really going on to your daughter so she does not feel left out in this. Not saying its over but looking back at my parents when they divorced I was very lucky they never spoke ill of each other , but kept me updated as too what was going on nothing too deep just that they both loved me very much and whatever was going on was there feelings and they would both always be there for me. On a lighter note if its what you want I hope things work out for you and yours but do get solicitors advice before youdo anything rash, suex

Hi Raggy, I read your thread last night and this morning, I am so sorry for you......I can't really offer any advice, although, my dear old mum would say, 'why should you leave, IT S YOUR HOME,' as previous people have said, let hubby go home to his mum, she it seems caused the problem, why should your daughter and you suffer. also get legal advice SOON..... I am sure they will say stay to. I will be thinking of you, I know it is really hard at the moment, but try and stay strong, for daughter sake. It will get better, I promise. take care........Lilly

Hi Sue, my daughter is 11, she wrote me a letter and what she put in it has broke my heart,i know some of the things she has written are because she is hurting, i wish i had the words to tell how i feel about this.

Raggy, if youve been together 23 years he cannot just throw you out. How old is your daughter ? If leaving is what you want search before you go ,or why not let him go and stay with his mum and you and daughter stay at home.suex

Hi RB If your daughter has to phone him, does that mean he's going? Beth :)

just got up, the only thing hubbie said was to get our daughter to `phone him when she wakes.