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Well early days yet then Jill, give him time. Remember the proverb, marry in haste, repent at leisure.

thank you to everyone for your comments..... Val...we have been in touch since last December and have been 'seeing' each other since january this year....over the last couple of months it has been more regular and more intense...which is why I hope that something more will happen given time.... Am seeing him this Saturday to catch up after his holidays....cant wait! jill x

Hello Jill, Anne and everyone else :-) Great question but not one I can answer I'm afraid. I do understand how you feel though, I'm beginning to think that the only way I'll completely (or as much as possible) be able to get over my present situation is when/if I fall for someone else. Not a rebound thing though! love becx

Jill I had this for a year. Someone I loved very much but he didn't feel the same way or if he didn't wasn't ready to admit it. Eventually the pain and hurt it was causing me started outweighing the pleasure of being with him. So I finished it. Silly thing is even after all the heartache and pain he's caused me I still care about him and think about him. I think it takes a very long time to stop loving someone .... you just move on. Only you'll know when you've had enough of the situation and thats when things will come to a head honey. Clare.xx

Just how long HAVE you been waiting Jill?

I'm the same Gwynne - can't hang about forever if someone's dithering. Uncertainty brings out the obsessive in me:) Trouble with waiting for someone to make their mind up is that you're giving them control over you and putting your own life on hold. But we're all different:)

Jill ..the 2 hour distance cant be that much of a problem if he still comes to see you, I think you are right and he is frightened of commitment, Its a big thing to change from being 'alone' and then all of a sudden living with four other people and having to take them into consideration, He could reap enormous rewards from commiting to you and you sound like a lovely patient person,,,,i hope things work out for you .

Hi, I agree with Dave, the feelings may linger but I really believe it's better to be on your own than to hang around waiting for a man who's only half there. I'm not a person who can deal with uncertainty. I'd say either you want me enough to move up a rung in our relationship or you can 'go away' and I'll find someone else. Gwynne

Hi Jill I don't think you ever give up hope. Even if you stop seeing them and move on with yr life the feelings still hang around :s

Thanks Jill - have PM'd you :O)

hey anne...if you ever want a moan about how things are with us you can contact me direct.......and if no one minds i will bump this up tomorrow to get more opinions on it....peace of mind etc lol

no problem...he on here then?

Thats fine babe.. ;o)

Jill - exactly LOL Jill & Maz hope you don't mind but I will delete some of my posts at some point - just in case :O)

oh Anne...lol....the dreaded Taurean!!!! I am one and so is he.......lol nightmare!!! lol

Maz :O) I didn't take it that way at all hun - you gave good comments. It's hard to be rational and logical when you're in emotional turmoil. What you say about Dave made me dewy eyed - but I hear what you are saying and it makes absolute sense - thank you. Half of my trouble is I am impatient and wont let go without a fight (typical Taurean lol) ............ my own worst enemy!! I will try hard to put your constructive advice and comments into practice . All good things etc ............ Thank you so much :O)

I understand that totally Jill... Just remember what you are worth, and remember we love ya loads babe Maz x

Anne i wish you luck to and hope that your worries sort themselves out too x x

Maz i think you put it into words perfectly...its a part of me that is worried........is it simply for physical needs or is there more than that....yes i have asked him...and he has proved the point when we have met up for a weekend and nothing wotsoever has happened..... you know i will speak to you privately about all this but for the moment it is very interesting to see other peoples take on it.......from wot i am saying about it and from wot people will ask me about it.. x x

I sincerely hope you dont think that was too hard a reply, because reading back on it, I may have sounded rather harsh then... what I meant by it was... I am married to Dave.. I worship the ground he walks on and I mean that with all my heart.. he is one of the main reasons, I struggle to draw breathe every morning!.. but... If he turned to me and said 'I need time apart, I am leaving you to sort myself out' I would say ok.. I would be devastasted!! but I would say ok!.. Then I would give him time to get himself sorted.. during this time however, I would not expect him to come back when ever his 'needs' saw fit!.. I would expect him to take that time to sort himself out, and come back to me with a solution as to what he wants. If he turned round and said it was over, then I would die inside for a while, but I would not fight for something that is not there, If he didn't want to be with me then so be it, I cant make him and wouldn't want to.. I would only want him there if that is what he wanted!... I hope I haven't upset anyone.. and if I have I am truly sorry.. Very difficult to put emotions into words! Maz x