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hi ginny really feel for you just lost fil last week he suffered with dementia ...... he knew my name and 1 of daughters but dont know if he knew what relation he was to us he seemed quite happy in nursing home but didnt know it was a home imm just glad that we dont know whats round the corner ann xx

Ginny, I'm really sorry to hear about your mum. My mum has been getting very forgetful lately, short term that is, she can still remember quite detailed events from her childhood. She has been diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairement. The consultant said it was definitely not Alzheimers but when my dad asked where he could find out more about MCI was told to look on the Alzheimers Website, so that has worried us a bit. Do you mind me asking how long it is since your mum first started losing her memory? Carolyn

(((hug))) just for Ginny - and I am not a huggy person! Jess xx

Hello Ginny, I too have a precious Mum who is in a Home with Dementia, I nursed her for as long as I could until she was a high risk and I also go to see her every day. It is a dreadful disease and it breaks my heart to see my lovely caring Mum who now is in a totally different world to us and nothing could ever prepare me for what Mum has become. Last week she told me that I was Winnie and she has no idea who I am. It's so bloody cruel and so much worse for us family looking on. Please God that my kids never ever have to go through what I have had to- watching my Mum become a completely different person. The roles of Mum and daughter have reversed I am now her Mum and she often calls me Mum when I walk into the lounge where she is. That is so heart breaking listening to her calling Mum Mum to me. Take care Ginny xxx

Ginny...how tragic for you and for your mum......I would agree thta it is a sh*te disease.......my grandpa got confused at best of times as he had such a big family and was always getting us mixed up with each other but he got there in the end........once dementia set in he had no chance and it was heartbreaking to watch and be part of....my heart goes out to you hun..... stay happy at the thought that you both knew exactly what you meant to each other before this crippling disease took over...... love to all... Jill x

Know exactly what you mean Jess - the lady that for years I thought that I would never manage without now sits there and I want it to end - I'm blubbing too now.

Ginny - i too hope that corrie has done its homework. my mum is in the relatively early stages - but already what was my mum has gone and been replaced with someone that looks like her , but doesn't act or think like her. We are in the process of moving - so that we can accomodate her if dad goes first - and return some of the loving care she gave to me. it is very very hard though, especially when they are hurtful - and its one of the woman-that-looks-like-my-mums talents at the moment! it sounds a dreadful thing to say, but Mum has gone already. i hope in my heart of hearts that the woman that is now in her skin doesn't live to very old age - there said it...and its made me cry.sorry jess

In all honesty Bella I don't think that Corrie will be able to tell me anything that I don't already know and I really think that it will be too painful to watch - I only hope that they have done their research. When Tracy Barlow had her kidney transplant I was working with a transplant team and the way that they handled it was appalling. There is no way that Samir's kidney would have been the right tissue type, there is no scar, there was no mention of the transplant during her pregnancy, she drinks like a fish.....need I go on ? so please excuse my scepticism!

Ginny I am so sorry but do hope your mum is happy. Mary and I looked after a relative who eventually had to go into a secure home and we know how heartbreaking it can be. However, our Lilian seemed quite happy in herself even though she had no idea who we were and remembered nothing of her life before the present. Len

hiya ginny love. so very sorry for you and your mam. my thoughts and prayers are for you both, god bless you both x

Ginny, Did you know that Alzheimers is going to be highlighted in an on-going story-line in Coronation Street?. The charachter Mike Baldwin has just started 'being forgetful' They were discussing this on GMTV a few days ago.

Thankyou all so much for your kind words and thoughts

I have been a nurse myself for 21 years and even that has not prepared me for this. I know that I will be there for her every day until the release comes - I just need to but shares in Kleenex!

Hi Ginny, I worked in a EMI (elderly mentaly infirm) nursing home for nine years and witnessed the rapid decline of residents and the heartbreak of their relatives ( some of them) I used to pray that this cruel disease would never hit my parents, it didn't, like your friend, my mum and dad died very suddenly after a short illness, so, yes, i got away with 'living' with it, however, my sister was diagonised with a serious mental illness, and i now spend a lot of time caring for her and her 13 year old son.

ginny, im so sorry about your mum, it is a terrible illness. Roxanne xx

Ginny there are not many words that i can say you and all the other people on here that have to cope with this my heart goes out to you with a big (((HUG))) Howardxx

Think I know what you mean... fortunately my Mum still remembers me - not sure for how long this will be. Took her for 'walk' along the sea front this morning and she was singing her heart out. Same song over and over again but it still cheered me up because if she sings then it means she is happy. Just try and see some good in what is quite a horrible situation. Lyndax

A big hug for you Ginny....(((((((hug)))))) BC

Ginny, i dont really know what to say to you apart from it sounds like you and your mum share loads of love and she wont ever forget that completely. Love and hugs Sheila x

tears were rolling down my cheeks today and mum held my hand and asked if she could help me - not even aware of who I was.