General Chat

Heather, I'm so sorry you're feeling down. It's not surprising, given the awful year you've had. It's not much comfort, but you're not alone. Last year ended badly for me, then things began looking up, only for well-laid plans to be thwarted and to find people's support melting away when most needed and promises unkept. Earlier this year, I was in pain and unable to walk properly for many months, and I'm also once again battling against long-standing medical conditions that are worsening and a relatively recent one that 's flared up, due to medication being stopped too soon. In the past few months, I've lost one dear old friend to cancer and, to old age, a close relative of my father's who I was banking on meeting for the first time. I've also had a severe emotional shock regarding my son which has dredged up a very unpleasant situation from years back, and it's very hard to live with. As for people 'lying in wait' to get at you on this Board, from my experience there are all too many of those - and some of them hide in the most unexpected corners, waiting to add their kicks when they know you're down. Sadly, a new year's not going to alter their tactics, but if you believe 'What goes around comes around', then they'll get a taste of their own medicine and, fingers crossed, learn from it. I hope sincerely that your problems ease soon and life becomes easier. Maybe a Happy Christmas will be the turning point for you. You certainly deserve one. Best wishes, >*|*< X ...

Heather my wife and I have often wondered how we would cope when 'we come up against it!' Well this year we have come up against family problems that seems unfair in such a short space of time - starting in June with my wife going into intensive care with heart failure - ten days after our Golden Wedding Celebrations in Cornwall. It soon followed with bomb shells from the family, which I will not go into - sufficient to say that the problems are still troubling us on a daily basis, and it's not fair on my wife. Now then how have we coped - quite well really - my daughter has a terrific sence of humour and keeps us smiling. My two sons are sensible in there approach to problems that they have to face and my dear wife is as tough as old boots. Roll on 2006 and lets both have better year Heather. My best wishes to you. Chin up, keep smiling.

Hello Heather. Hello Heather, I would like to send special hugs and love to you... Love Maisie

Heather - think of it this way - or try... this year was so awful for you can next year really be as bad - i hope not. love Ralphie like you loved Lucy, remeber your dad in the good days, the happy times and all the love you shared and the 90 great years that he lived, all he did and all he achieved in his life time What about some respite care for your son? Yes I know, he's your son and its your job to take care of him but..... In the fullness of time he'll have to survive in this world without you (just as you do withoiut your dad) and think of it as a step towards him coping with that , ready for the future ...and ignore the prat that senses your vunerabilty and uses it agianst you Love jess x

I agree, Heather, it has been a pretty ghastly year for me too. But in the middle of it all there was the birth of my beloved grandchild, and for that I am grateful. I hope next year is kinder to you and yours...XX BC

It sounds like a hell of a year for you, fingers crossed 2006 is happy and healthy for you. Mines been pretty yuk as well, so you have my full sympathy. love Donna x

Ive had enough this year. 2 bereavements, 3 if you dont mind me including dear little Lucy dog. The neighbour from hell buying next door. Autistic son refusing to take his meds now and making our life a misery. And on top of that someone on the boards here seems to lay in wait to jump on anything I say. Please Santa, make 2006 a better year. Sorry, no need for any comment, just wanted to moan to someone, tired of keeping brave face in the real world.