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Dad's are very special Molly....So Sorry for your loss.

Molly , Sad news Indeed, your Dad must've been a fighter.........my condolences on your loss.... Bob

Hi Molly I am so sorry to hear your sad news, please accept my sincere condolences Julie x

Hi Molly Please accept my condolences on the passing of your Dad. I'm sure you have many happy memories of him Kindest Regards Jackie

I'm so sorry about your Dad, I don't know what else to say that would make sense of it.

Please accept my condolences Molly Jane. It's so so hard when you lose a parent. My thoughts are especially with you, because my father in law also died last week on the 4th January (which happens to be my daughter's birthday).. Thinking of you xxx Dee x

I am so sorry to hear this Molly Jane, my thoughts are with you and your family Julie xxx

i am so very sorry to hear this, i will be thinking of you and your family. All my love xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Molly I am so sorry, my thoughts go to you and your family Kim x

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Thanks everyone will take your advice and see what happens...wish me and my Dad luck.

My f-i-l was recently in hospital and the nurses told us whatever we wanted to know with no problem. Nothing was held back.

Guinevere has the right answer. A very common problem Happy days

Hi Molly Jane I have a friend here visiting me who is a Staff Nurse. She has advised the following: The nursing team have a Duty of Care both to the Patient and the family, and should be telling you all there is to know unless your father has stated otherwise. Your first option is to speak to the Senior Duty Nurse or the Ward Manager. If you have no joy there, then enquire as to whether your hospital has a PALS system (Patients Advocacy and Liaison Services), who will deal with any queries or complaints you have. They should be able to find out why you are not being told anything. Hope this helps. Dianne xx

Whenever I am at the hospital there are never Doctors around, the Nursing staff are so not interested and fob me off on the phone and face to face....I have phoned the registrars secretary and she was unhelpful saying that they do not arrange appointments to see families!! She suggested I stay at the hospital all day to see if anyone is available but I could be there for a long time as they never know when one is going to turn up!!!!! It is very difficult for me to do this as the hospital is 2 hour drive from me and I have 3 children to get back to after school. I just don't know what to do next. My poor dad has just been dumped there and is confused and hallucinating and not making much sense at all. He is 75 yrs old, and has got skin cancer, so I am wondering if he has got secondaries..so worried sick.

My mother has been in hospital since September, recently moved into intermediate care (rehab). The only times we (my brother and I) have been told anything about what is wrong with her, treatment, etc has been when we have asked with her in the room. We figured this was patient confidentiality so made a point of only asking questions of nursing staff/doctors when we were with Mum. The consultant said Mum needed to give her permission (in writing so that the note appeared on her records) for us to be officially told anything without her present ... and she hasn't (won't!) give this. With ref to diagnosis - in our case the original op took place on 29 September and the official diagnosis nearly 6 weeks later, so it may be that they haven't decided what is wrong yet. Best wishes, as I appreciate how hard this must be. Su

You have every right to know what is wrong with your father, Dont be fobed off stand your ground. Margaret xx

i would go to the nurse and demand you see his doctor if they say no then I would tell them you want to see their manager! it mite get you somewhere! he is your dad and you have to right to know what is wrong with him unless he has sed not to tell you! I would totally put my foot down hun!

are you there or is this over the telephone?

My dad is in hospital , admitted last Thursday with breathing problems and is very ill. All I know is that they have done X rays on his chest and has been on antibiotics. I keep trying to see someone i.e Doctor/consultant/registrar to find out what his diagnosis is but NOBODY is prepared to tell me a thing!!! I keep getting fobbed off by all the nursing staff. It is really frustating, can anyone give me any advice of what to do next. UPDATE My dad died on 4 Jan after just over 4 weeks of being admitted to hospital. We did eventually get to find out that he was not going to recover from the cancer that had spread to his neck. He was so courageous and brave, he was my Daddy and I love him.