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Sean it maybe to late he's taken he to Lunch

I am the MD of business with 8 staff and one of them has very bad b/o. She has always had this problem but luckily I know her sister so i asked her to have a word from a family level with no names mentioned and it worked so if you can try and get someone she is close to to have a word then that way she will never know that work friends have noticed the problem Good luck xx

Dave pmsl, good to see you back on form

Keep her off the spring onions then Paul in case she insists on kissing you for buying her lunch! Dave

nah its on me. she only eats salads! lol!

Hope the company are paying? LoL

You go with it Paul, i think you are being very sensible. good luck, and let us know how you get on,.xx

thanks for all the advice, it really helps. dave i know you were only messing, i see the funny side! lol! i've decided to combine a lot of the advise on here and do this: i take the telling her on friday idea but she's actually off for the rest of the week, so. i'm going to take her out to lunch so that we are in a friendly neutral environment and then when she chooses her meal i can get on the diet subject. bit sneaky but hey ho. im then going to compliment her on the amount of weight she has lost and just try to make light of the subject by saying something like im not being funny but it causes a bit of a breath problem dont you think? and then just kind of go with the flow then... going at 20 past 12 so be quick if im making a huge mistake! paul..

I know Deanna its just my dark humour just a joke I meant the first one Davex

Paul when you do decide what you are going to do, if you have'nt already done it please would you feed back so we can learn from it, but i still say Delecate to the O/T Dept Regards PS Dave B behave yourself PMSL

Dave B.... I read your bit about embarassing her by having two people there, and I thought, what a lovely thoughtful man you are. THEN, I read the suggestion about the note....... Dog breath??? LOL That's awful Dave. Deanna X

Paul This lady could actually be diabetic if she has bad breath. Do you have access to any medical info on staff? If she is then that is the answer. If there is no info to look at, it could help you how to word it to her, by saying something like 'I have realised from a poor breath problem you have, that you may have diabetes, and you may not have realised. May I suggest that your doctor checks you out?' Also the weight loss may not have been because of a deliberate slimming regime, it can also be another symptom of diabetes. Dianne xx

NO your right it may be my calling only joke Heatther I have had to deal with that situation and Im sure Paul will in dignified manner, Davex

I would tell her on a Friday too, so she has the weekend to get over the embarrassment before she has to come back to work. Just a thought. xx Jen

Thats a subtle way Dave - have you ever considered the Diplomatic Corps as a career?

I think the Atkins Diet causes this problem doesn't it? Wouldn't want to be the one to have to tell her though cos I tend to just blurt things out when I'm nervous lol Julie xxx

Hi Paul, I dont agree that you should take someone with you to talk to the lady... what i would suggest is this... Is there a colleague of this ladies, female.., that you can talk to and ask if she could broach the subject with the lady in question. if there is, good. It will be far better for two reasons, Firstly, having a 'quiet word from the boss, could upset the lady more than if it comes from a freindly female face colleague, and secondly, women are far better at 'going round the houses in a inconspicous mannner, without arousing suspicion. some diets do indeed cause Halitosis, quite badly, and of course, the person in question can be quite oblivious to this problem. A good into into the 'Quiet word' would be to congratulate the woman on her diet and progress.... the colleague saying.. oh she wishes she could do the same , and has tried several diets etc... then gently slipping in the problem of halitosis caused by some diets.. yu get the idea... I do hope this is of some help.xx

Why dont you leave her a note Paul be discreet like , Dear Dog Breath lol! Dave

might be change in food then paul, so manager could use diet change as exscuse to talk to her ask what new foods she's eating, and say off the cuff think maybe it changes her body chemistry as body not used to it and he/she has noticed peeps reactions when she changed diet, but not in front of anyone else as 1-1 she knows as manager he can't spread gossip, so she feel more secure,and don,t mention word smelly , stinky, use technical words

Paul i would refer her to the Occupational Therapist within the company as this is an Health issue, or H,R PS as the manager Delegate that's what we have been taught on our leadership skills training LOL