General Chat

what age are you lucia? (if you dont mind me asking)lol

Ginny, I'll go and have a look then :-) I just think adoption would be better than actually killing a child.

I realise it's up to the individual and i wouldn't like to comment on that issue, BUT if a young girl has an abortion without her parents knowledge who is going to lok after her. She's not going to just walk away and carry on as normal after surgery. Would she be in any physical/mental pain. Claire

Lucia, you only have to read the heartbreaking stories on 'Tips' to see there can be plenty wrong with adoption.

Gwynne, no I meant if someone becomes pregnant as a result of their obvious lack of morals ie someone around my age being reckless.. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend.

As a mere male I have no right to say how a woman should or should not re-act to pregnancy, it is their body and their right to choose. As for 'Children', ie under sixteen, the parents have the full resposibility for the child and should have all knowldge and rights in regard to their daughters. In my opinion sex before sixteen without parents consent, and I cannot see that being given, is an offence and the male MUST be prosecuted regardless of 'But she said yes'. In addition, digressing, a 'single' mother under eighteen is the financial burden of the parents and no 'State' aid should be given. Regards. Brian (i)

Nice to see you Jill! :-) My area has the highest rate of teenage pregnancies in Britain. I think that if you're stupid enough to get into that sort of mess you should accept your responsibilities.

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Lunar, I'm not offended at all. I want to hear everyone's views. :-) I personally think it would be selfish to put your own issues (welfare etc) ahead of the child's life. What's wrong with adoption?

I think (personally) that it should be dependent on the individual case. I disagree with abortions but at the same time, occationally the abortion is better than the alternatives. For example, I know a girl who was pregnant at 15, her father took her to have an abortion. Knowing this girl, she could never have coped with having a baby at that age. By chance she had a baby sibling at the same time and the way she behaved around the baby and treated it confirmed everyones feelings. If she had had the baby then she would probally either hurt it, run away or killed herself. In her case I feel the abortion was justified. As to should the parents be told; if the girl is mature enought to understand what the abortion intales and the consiquenses to the same level as an adult then no the parents should not be told but an adult should always be with the girl (which is requied for any woman) and be staying with her for a few days after the abortion so they can get help if the girl starts to bleed. However, if the girl has had a number of abortions (and I do't doubt some do), then the parents should be informed for the childs safety. I would be more conserned as to why a child has got pregnant and reqieres an abortion so offten. I would start thinking that the girl could be being abused by someone and needs protecting. The problem is that if we make abortion illeagal, then we go back to backstreet abortionists who are untrained and do more harm to the mother. My appologies if I have offended anyone, but these are my personal views and I don't try to force them on anyone else.

Lynda, good point - I mean hopefully I don't have to experience that..to be able to answer that question..

I agree entirely with Grampa Jim Rupert

lucia, i agree life is precious but at the same time if you where raped(god forbid) could you happily carry a child for nine months knowing how it was concived could you look at that child without wondering if he/she resembles thier father???

i am against abortion, unless it's on medical grounds only. bryan.

True Lucia - but you have to consider the woman/girls pyshcological (?sp) welfare too .............

I think the question of abortion is really down to the individual and their conscience. I don't think I have the right to sit in judgement on anyone comtemplating what must be a truly terrible experience. As for knowing if your child is seeking an abortion. Of course I think parents should know. This Government is sending out so many mixed messages it's untrue. On the one hand there is talk of girls as young as 12 having secret abortions and on the other they talk about parents having responsibility for their childrens actions, ie when involved in anti-social behaviour, truancy etc. As I see it, as a parent you are responsible for your 'child' whilst he/she is still a 'minor' - and as I understand it you are a minor until 18. How can they heap responsibility on parents shoulders for one thing and take it away on another. It just doesn't make sense. Somewhere along the line there should be some consistency.

Anne, Even then I don't think abortion should be allowed. It's not the baby's fault - you can't take everything out on the baby. Life is precious. :-)

I am in agreement with Lucia here. To me a foetus is as human as a baby. I also believe that there should not be any secrecy between any child under 16 and any 'Professional' e.g doctor, solicitor, etc. from the parents who are responsible for that child.

A serious can of worms methinks

Lucia - what about if conception is a result of a rape ????