General Chat

I have not long ago rejoined and seeing so many lovely people being hurt and upset has made me wonder why i did. R.B. xxxx

Hello folks. :-)) We are the only ones that can get this board back to being lighthearted and fun to be on. There still is a bit of that right now, but! If we just started to ignore the confrontational ones, then they wouldn't get the response that they are looking for. Some of us see a thread or a reply that sounds like they are picking on someone we have met and off we go. If we just ignored the thread, itwould get no where. I might get pi**ed off with someone and want to vent my anger on them and start a thread. That doesn't mean I want everybody to respond to it, it's my problem and I will deal with it. Some of you are thinking that if someone puts it on the boad it's open game, Right?? Maybe you are right, so why put it on in the first place? Deal with it if you must, but in private. That's my opinion and I stick to it. Neil

Neil, well said, my sentiments exactly

Just had a message from a GR member who is staying away from this site which is such a shame but then I don't blame that person must admit I think I waste too much time looking a people squabbling and upsetting other's!!!!! There are the few who seem to get pleasure in upsetting people.

I put loads of jokes on the board on Saturday night as it was a little quiet (and I was a little bored!). My threads had many many 'hits' , we all had a really good laugh and I had many PMs thanking me for a few hours of fun. Interestingly enough I tried to do the same thing last night and nobody was interested, presumably because of what was happening 'elsewhere'(either that or the jokes weren't as funny lol). I think that it is human nature unfortunately to get embroiled in such goings on. I agree that WE as individuals are responsible for what we write and the subsequent consequences. I also feel that by bringing personal arguments on to the board, inevitably all and sundry will be dragged into it. :-)

It's really reassuring to hear the voice(s) of reason - I was beginning to wonder if good will to others had disappeared!! I've only been a member since the beginning of Feb, but even in that short space of time I've noticed a change in the atmosphere. There are so many wonderful, selfless people who belong to GR, it seems a shame that this is overshadowed sometimes. Sharonxx

I was a watcher of generals for a long time before i jumped in.and it has'nt been that long, A few horrible threads (i think they are anyway) have been posted. and i thinks sometimes if no one put an answer to them they would drop very fast,,so how about ignoring the ones put on to cause hurt,and if we all put silly quick ones on the 'horris'would vanish, i know its hard to do when all you want to do is give your opinion,i know i put answer to one and it broke me emotionaly so now i ignore ones to cause hurt. so perhaps we could have a HORRIS WARNING then we know to not post on it, Can we all be friends cos thats all i want !!!!

Please lets remember the good these boards do for people and that the good ALWAYS outweighs the bad!! i'm sorry for my rant this morning but I was so upset by it all that I had to vent, I didn't name anyone and won't no matter what as I don't want fueds starting because people think they are sticking up for me!! Lets bring it back to fun and laughter and let all the sad muppets threads die a death!! xx

I have been on here for a long time and now I just read the threads dont often get involved because some things turn nasty a lot of this occures in late evening so do you think people have a few drinks and then start?? I have made some very good friends on this site and seen some of them leave because of the hassle just my thoughts Howardxx

Gwen I and some others tried it the other night and have done so before.....nudging trouble of the board.....it never works...you get up next morning it always ressurects itself like oil in water. I even then had a nip taken from me...for trying to brush things under the carpet, so what chance do you stand, when trying to cool things......I feel my tree beckoning, at least i know who is who in there lol X

I joined in September and I think the boards have become more and more argumentative since the new year. What really appalled me in one controversy was a posting intimating that if a comment had been made under a different name, then it would have been acceptable. I never did understand WHY. Surely in a discussion it is the CONTENT of the post that determines whether it is rude, nasty or unacceptable? Whether it’s acceptable/unacceptable shouldn't vary according to the name of the person being disagreed with. I think this is part of the trouble and why people “jump in” so quickly. I am beginning to think that for a small minority, GR stands for Generating Rows – what a shame. I have had so much fun reading some of the other threads. Jay

Quite honestly I don't know what people are talking about . I have made so many friends on General and I look upon the different viewpoints as 'debate' not arguments. Maybe I've missed something?? We are all entitled to our opinion and that is the purpose of debate. Can I please have an example of a 'rude' or 'personal' comment? Maybe I just go onto the next thread if it sounds like something childish, I don't know, but I would hate for GR to take off the General Board.

What,s gone wrong with everybody? The good outnumbers the bad one hundred to one. Lets focus on that. Mistakes have been made and it would be very sad indeed to lose anyone because of that. Lets get out of the boiler room of argument and get on deck - enjoy the sun and see which way the ship is going. Don,t know quite when this trouble occurred timewise or what was the deep down root cause of it. As a general rule I have long noted that arguments often occur at night and a disproportionate number of 'GR have removed my thread' seem to take place late on. Happy days, starting today .

No disrespect Jill, you must be a little blinkered - it goes on daily - we all read and pass things by, but it doesnt mean you dont 'see' it going on even if we dont comment. All sorts of nasty comments get thrown out, arguements evolve and people do get hurt. it has to stop.

To me this is what happens once in a while, for some reason it always does on G/r have no idea why, as it doesn't on any other site i am a member of, nor would it be allowed to happen. I emailed G/R several times, saying i would become a moderator for free etc, they said they have moderators who moderate the boards, but thanked me anyway. LOL :-)

Well sorry Jess, and no disrespect, but I can honestly say I haven't seen what you're talking about. But then a few people, Harry included, have said that it's often at night. Well I seldom go on the boards at night so maybe that's why. I would just like to say I agree with Harry's post. I always thought this was a friendly site. What on earth has gone wrong?? PS I don't think I'm blinkered - mature may perhaps be a more suitable word? PPS And now I'm off to cook egg and chips. Cheerio everyone.

Nichola. lol, hmmm, perhaps they'd like to introduce themselves.

news to me too Andy! if they have , i suggest GR sack them, because they are not very good at their job!

Jill is quite right.....if you are not often on the boards in the evenings then you can miss a lot of what goes on........(often a good thing I think!!!) Welcome Silver.....(Don't know why I'm saying that when I'm not usually on General - like a guest welcoming all at the party!!) Merry (from Tips Board)