General Chat

Alter, if he had lived in Bermondsey - it wouldnt have happened - he would have been pooing himself to upset anyone with my family name. But those days have gone (sadly in some circumstances). Trish, dont want to make too much known - hoping to retire in 4 years and dont want to blight the house. As it goes, he may have gone by then and/or we can just put a vague - a hedge was damaged, its been sorted, statement on the legal questionnaire.

In certain quarters people like him were 'sorted out' by local gangster families-they dont like unrest on their patch like that and bully the bullies.

No advice just sending you a hug!! xx

Wondering if this story could somehow get leaked to The Sun newspaper - might get some action then?????

Heather. A friend of ours had this sort of problem and went to see her local MP about the attitude of the police not wanting to know anything,and of the various replies that she had from solicitor about 'they have to caught actually doing it' have you tried contacting yours? It may help you as it has helped my friend. I really feel so mcu for you going through this but don't let him win take it all the way. Look after yourself Love Maisie

Guys, honestly we have done everything we can legally. We have had a solicitor on the case for a year - every time she writes to say you have had enough time to reinstate the hedge, we will have to go to court, he just writes another little note confusing the matter which means she then has to write back. Really, you would not believe what its like until you have to go through it (which I hope you never do). In theory, he does wrong, he either apologises and/or puts its right or we take him to court, we win and he has to put it right. Easy isnt it! It just doesnt work like that. We have dozens of photos of what he did to our garden. Our first solicitor actually came the next day and directed our photo taking and witnessed trees cut down. BUT, get this guys, our solicitor says, but if he says he didnt do it, you have no proof it was him. But you say, I spoke to the guy who was doing it for him. Ah, says the solicitor he could deny all knowledge of this man and just say it was a maniac who came in and started chopping down trees. Do you get my drift people? NOTHING is straight forward. The police have no interest whatsoever 'unless he actually physically assaults you or a member of your family'. He could stand on a roof looking at you all day and he would not be doing anything against the law - honest guys, I would never have believed how the good guys just cant do anything.

hi heather i know its no consolation to you at the moment but i had a similer problem to yours and it took me nearly 3 years to get resolved this was done only by myself and the lady at the otherside of them keeping and writeing down 2 years of goings on and happernings like you we were at our witts end wanting to give up but please don.t let them win it does take time but please try and stay strong and you will win when hes driveing passed you slowley or giving you the eye just try and think of the good times you have had in the house before he came along and ignor him and hold your head up high you take care jacky

Another thought, if I came over I could photograph your garden and claim as a tourist I am interested in English gardens and am producing a book for New Zealand gardeners!

My thought is that he is hoping you will decide to sell so that he can then buy your property cheaply. Please dont do it, unless you can make it conditional on sale that the property is NEVER to go to him. I would love to come over there and lend my big size to wearing HIM down. Being elderly I might only get a slap on the wrist with a wet bus ticket if I took to him.

Heather feel it for you, I really wish I lived next to you.I would so enjoy giving this muppet some of his own treatment.I would love to punch his head in,and take the charge,lets face it,the police would take to long to get there I would be home and in bed before they got there.People like this muppet enjoy harrasing people like you.Maybe he is doing the property up to lease it out, if that is the case then refenge could be all the more sweeter,who would want to lease his property, if you became the nieghbour from HELL.He thinks he can do whatever he wants ,stick to your guns and he will tire of it.

Heather Have you got photos perhaps in an album of your garden before he cut your hedge down even old ones will prove that a hedge did exist there. Why not pretend you are taking photos of your garden plants and when he is not looking at you snap a few photos of the things he is doing to you ie. his car parked on your property, use a wide angle or landscape setting you will be surprised at what your camera can pick up. Just think about all your holiday shots and when you look in the back ground you see things that you never new were in the photo when you took the picture. ( you just might catch him doing something he should not be doing.) If you have to talk to him for any reason put a dictaphone in your pocket so you can tape him, then if he is agresive you will have some evidence. good luck Vanda

Heather, won't the police help. He is clearly causing a disturbance.

Heather so sorry for you that this is going on. PS Now in contact with the niece of the Horstead person.

Hi Heather. So sorry to hear this is still going on after all this time. I know what you are going through as we are going through a similar thing only not with a neighbour. I hope it gets resolved for you. Keep strong. Alyson

Heather, go and have a chat with your local bobby. Does he have an afternoon when he is available for anyone to see him (ours does at the local library). If not, go to the station and ask to see someone, pour it all out to them. There must be something they can do (a quiet word in his ear maybe, for a start). And, of course, keep a diary of everything he does. Stop dithering, go and see the police, you won't be any worse off than you are now, and at least they'll know what's going on. Sending hugs xxxx

Bless you all, but Alter this guy opens his mouth and lies just pour out. How can I prove he is harrassing me? There is no way because he will have a reason for driving slowly, for looking at me for being in that particular place. Honest peeps, if this has taught me one thing is that the law is an ass, is a toothless tiger and NEVER be scared of a threat to take you to court - the facts can be black and white but it still doesnt mean you will win.

Heather, my son's a farmer and he's got a shotgun licence! Would you like to borrow him? Oops forgot to mention he's also a Civil Engineer! At the mo he's working at Edinburgh airport - taking the planes' rubber deposits from their landing wheels off the tarmac with a real eff off machine from Germany. I can get him to pop by on his way back home! I feel for you Darling, I really do! Love Cherryx

Heather -havent read through the posts- ITS HARRASMENT GET IT RECORDED GET THE POLICE INVOLVED AND AN INJUNCTION STOPPING HIM APPROACHING YOU

Many thanks guys - genuinely you give me strength to carry on. James, he started building the extension before he even bought the house! He then started again without permission and was warned but he now has it. (I only know this because 1. I was looking after the house for the executors and 2. we asked to look at the planning depts notes when his agent who I stopped in mid chopping down of a third tree told me 'he needs it for his planning permission' - in fact it was for building regs - he wanted to dig cheaper shallower foundations and he had told them we were letting him remove the nearby hedge and trees). Bless you all. Honestly, we are nice people and I just dont understand why this is all happening.

I wonder if he has planning permission for the extensions he is building?