General Chat

Thanks, guys, will dry my eyes now as hubby just pulled into drive. Bless you all for just listening.

When I was being stared at by that thing next to me I called the police and explained all what had been going in the past and that it had sat and stared at me in the garden and then waited on its doorstep the following day until I came up mine and turned and did the same again. The police said I should documenmt it all. If its actions were making me feel frightened etc., I could take it further for harrasment. I'm sure with all thats been going on with yours it would be viewed the same. Apparently if I'd gone ahead it would have been warned if it carried on it would then have been taken to court. The staring stopped so I didn't want a war as I've had so much from it, its never ending something always waiting to start. I really feel for you as I know only too well how it makes you feel. Good luck with it. Dianex

Heather, if you do get CCTV then sure go and tell him, and everyone else, maybe that will put a stop to it all xx

heather, when my son in law was putting a camera up on the wall a policeman came to him and told him, he must keep it focused inside he's own property, as if he trains it public property he is breaking the law. he phoned the police station, and was told the same.

Heather Haven't got any practical suggestions to make I'm afraid, but you have my sympathy and also positive thoughts for the correct outcome in the court case. Stay strong xx

Hi Heather, Sorry i don't get to be here very often,but managed to get here today and read this thread. It must be horrible for you, especially when you have done so much for the people around you and they don't seem to support you. It seems to me what you need is some support most of all, bad things happen but if you know you have support you can face anything, it would be a gamble but maybe it would be good to see who your friends really are, the weather is improving... i wonder what this guy would do if you had a BBQ or a nice informal garden party? I know it sounds stupid but he seems to thrive on the intimidation factor, its hard to intimidate more than 1 person. I don't want to sound patronising but decent people win, not always straight away, but always. Be strong, don't let him win, time will come. Be thinking of you Donna:-)

Hi sorry to hear of your troubles.This guy is intimidating you to extreme.I hav had similar in the past-there are injuctions/restraining orders and harrassment-I know hard but try to ignore him he is enjoying this-what a sicko-why do peeps get off on making others lives hell?I feel for you know what u are going through and hope you can try not to let this **** get to u.Good luck and speak to your solicitor again about what action u can take.sending u a ((((((hug)))))))))))Kat

I wonder if he has planning permission for the extensions he is building?

Many thanks guys - genuinely you give me strength to carry on. James, he started building the extension before he even bought the house! He then started again without permission and was warned but he now has it. (I only know this because 1. I was looking after the house for the executors and 2. we asked to look at the planning depts notes when his agent who I stopped in mid chopping down of a third tree told me 'he needs it for his planning permission' - in fact it was for building regs - he wanted to dig cheaper shallower foundations and he had told them we were letting him remove the nearby hedge and trees). Bless you all. Honestly, we are nice people and I just dont understand why this is all happening.

Heather -havent read through the posts- ITS HARRASMENT GET IT RECORDED GET THE POLICE INVOLVED AND AN INJUNCTION STOPPING HIM APPROACHING YOU

Heather, my son's a farmer and he's got a shotgun licence! Would you like to borrow him? Oops forgot to mention he's also a Civil Engineer! At the mo he's working at Edinburgh airport - taking the planes' rubber deposits from their landing wheels off the tarmac with a real eff off machine from Germany. I can get him to pop by on his way back home! I feel for you Darling, I really do! Love Cherryx

Bless you all, but Alter this guy opens his mouth and lies just pour out. How can I prove he is harrassing me? There is no way because he will have a reason for driving slowly, for looking at me for being in that particular place. Honest peeps, if this has taught me one thing is that the law is an ass, is a toothless tiger and NEVER be scared of a threat to take you to court - the facts can be black and white but it still doesnt mean you will win.

Heather, go and have a chat with your local bobby. Does he have an afternoon when he is available for anyone to see him (ours does at the local library). If not, go to the station and ask to see someone, pour it all out to them. There must be something they can do (a quiet word in his ear maybe, for a start). And, of course, keep a diary of everything he does. Stop dithering, go and see the police, you won't be any worse off than you are now, and at least they'll know what's going on. Sending hugs xxxx

Hi Heather. So sorry to hear this is still going on after all this time. I know what you are going through as we are going through a similar thing only not with a neighbour. I hope it gets resolved for you. Keep strong. Alyson

Heather so sorry for you that this is going on. PS Now in contact with the niece of the Horstead person.

Heather, won't the police help. He is clearly causing a disturbance.

Heather Have you got photos perhaps in an album of your garden before he cut your hedge down even old ones will prove that a hedge did exist there. Why not pretend you are taking photos of your garden plants and when he is not looking at you snap a few photos of the things he is doing to you ie. his car parked on your property, use a wide angle or landscape setting you will be surprised at what your camera can pick up. Just think about all your holiday shots and when you look in the back ground you see things that you never new were in the photo when you took the picture. ( you just might catch him doing something he should not be doing.) If you have to talk to him for any reason put a dictaphone in your pocket so you can tape him, then if he is agresive you will have some evidence. good luck Vanda

Heather feel it for you, I really wish I lived next to you.I would so enjoy giving this muppet some of his own treatment.I would love to punch his head in,and take the charge,lets face it,the police would take to long to get there I would be home and in bed before they got there.People like this muppet enjoy harrasing people like you.Maybe he is doing the property up to lease it out, if that is the case then refenge could be all the more sweeter,who would want to lease his property, if you became the nieghbour from HELL.He thinks he can do whatever he wants ,stick to your guns and he will tire of it.

My thought is that he is hoping you will decide to sell so that he can then buy your property cheaply. Please dont do it, unless you can make it conditional on sale that the property is NEVER to go to him. I would love to come over there and lend my big size to wearing HIM down. Being elderly I might only get a slap on the wrist with a wet bus ticket if I took to him.

Another thought, if I came over I could photograph your garden and claim as a tourist I am interested in English gardens and am producing a book for New Zealand gardeners!