General Chat

No! Once bitten twice shy. An elephant never forgets. Grayxx

In a word, no. Perhaps that's wrong and I didn't used to be like it but perhaps it comes with the realisation that I have less time to live than I have lived already and I have spent too much of that time pretending things don't hurt or don't matter: forgiving if you like. As far as I am concerned now, I don't need the hassle of forgiving someone if they have let me down or hurt me in any way. If I meant anything to them, they wouldn't have put me in the position of having to forgive and they are the sort of people I can do without. Mags xx (who isn't nearly so cross as that makes me sound! LOL)

Dee - it took my sister 4 years to forgive me for something and its only after my parents split and I took Daddy to hers for a holiday (without me and I drove all night to get him there) that she realised my mistake was nothing compared to the mistake of losing a sister unnecessarily!! Thankfully Daddy was alive to see his children speaking again!! Dread to think if she had carried it on for a further 6 months what would have happened!! xx

Am afraid that I am not very forgiving.......not one of my better character traits..........

There have been many times when I have been unnecessarily sharp and unkind, and hurtful to friends and family, and I always hope and ask that they forgive me. Thankfully, they have. So I forgive them when they hurt me too. Which reminds me, I fell out with my sister a month ago when she was unkind to me, and havent spoken to her for a while now. Time to ring her I think. Life's too short xxxx Dee x

Depends on what it is If it really hurts me or my family then NO WAY -I'm stubborn when it comes down to something like that. I have rellies I haven't spoke to in 8/9 years due to hurtful things they have said and done and I have no regrets, my immediate family mean more to me than the rest Joanne

Yes I do Diana, theres no point harbouring bad thoughts, I try to move on and forget, and that for me is the hardest part. Heather x

I'm oppsite to what daniel said, I could forgive friends more than I could forgive family. Did I mention I have a sister who I haven't spoken to in 4 or 5yrs???

David - fair comment mate!! My best friend I would forgive almost anything, but then I also know she would NEVER do something out of malice towards me!! xx

Depends on the person more than the action with me. I can forgive someone I like a lot worse action and not forgive someone I don't like something less.

No its 7 month now since i last spoke to my (old) best friend!

There are some things in life that are unforgiveable. But for minor things, I hope I am a big enough person to shrug my shoulders and wipe the slate clean and move on xx

Family I can. Friends, not really.

I can forgive but it takes a while.

Rick - thanks sweets..... and if you let me get you drunk again then which one of us will be stupid? LOL!! And I never forget either!! :O)

depends on exactly what it is..... but like most I will forgive the once, not twice and I'll never forget!!!

Diana, I forgive you for getting me drunk on tequila and making me walk round and round in circles in London trying to find my hotel ! xx

I can forgive once maybe at a push twice But I never forget Maureen

Jan just cos you're celebrating coming 4th no need to be horrid to poor Rick!! LOL!!

I cant 4give my sis in law we used 2 get on so well [only due to me letting her have her way in the past just 2 keep the peace] she and her husband have been so cruel to their 14 yr old neice my daughter its un4givable i hate the situation