General Chat

Hi Val On your thread in question you did say I quote from your thread 'i guess only the honest and sincere ones will add to this thread.' (and im afraid that quote couldn't be misinterpreted) I for one diddnt add to your thread on principle (regardless of my thoughts on your thread subject) as by saying that, intentional or not, you was saying everyone who diddnt add to your thread were dishonest and insincere ! Making people feel they were forced to add or be eyed with distrust or suspicion for not doing so. It was bound to upset those who either couldn't add, or diddnt want to add to the thread Not wanting to add to a thread doesnt make a person a bad 'un. Elaine x

Hi Valerie I didn't see the thread in question, but there have been so many 'problem' threads on here that sometimes people missread an innocent one and react. I am sure you meant well, and please don't take it to heart that someone missunderstood, just try and forget and enjoy the boards, i am sure things will clear up as a result. Have a nice day :-) Yvette

In the past Collette texted me a question and I sent back 'Yes'. When she got home she started going off on one about me texting sarcastically!

ah yes, forgot, the Vutons (AKA the Zutons lol) also have a song called Valerie...

I feel that same way Valerie. If i'm in a 'daft,happy mood',on here sometimes, I might put words that sound cheeky( but not meant to be nasty) and fear, that, when I don't get a reply that I've offended the other person.Although I feel some members could say anything to each other, think they must actually be friends. When among my family and friends and I say the same silly things we always laugh together, knowing it's not meant to cause trouble. I like to come on Gen. board and have a laugh, learn life(we're never too old for something new!) and just generally 'mix' with everyone.Even to just sit and read and not add to it. We can all,sometimes, take things personally and has been said depends on your mood!! Have a smashing day Valerie Mau ((XX)) :O) BTW 'Valerie' is by The Vutons x

There have certainly been some very valid points made about the importance of non verbal communication ie facial expressions and body language - which cannot be seen from behind a computer screen. I agree with Lil in that I certainly would not take anything personally unless it was directed at me by name. Carry on posting Val - if you offend me I'll let you know (or send the boys aound ) lol Best wishes Kris

I stop and think before I hit send - what if my mum or gran could see this? Would they approve? If the answer's No then I don't send. Even then I go back and look and will change it if I'm not happy. I sometimes delete but not if there's been an answer as that leaves the thread looking stupid. I'm usually very easy-going and don't get upset BUT I'm diabetic and do have bad days - these are the days when I could say something without thinking! But I'll do that face to face as well - in fact, I'm more inclined to do it face to face! On here I can amend my words - can't do that speaking to someone, once it's said you have to live with the consequences. Damage limitation!

Morning Valerie Hope you well. catherine xx

The song Valerie was sung by Steve Winwood, late 80s early 90s I think - there was a recent dance remix (as there always is), but the original version is much better (as they usually are).

Hi Yes people do tend to take thinks personal not me I must add. Unless someone refers to me by name even then depending on the opinion/comment I don’t take it to personal words on a screen, Different people express themselves differently we are all individuals, some feel its aimed at them personally which on most occasions its not, its someone having there opinion, we all come from different walks of life and have different opinions. Have a nice day Lil

Half the unrest on this board would never be , if we could see faces. Seeing if what we said brought a smile or a frown, a laugh or a tear. Joy or hurt. Comfort or pain. Bitterness or forgivness. XX

Jean I recognise that surname Durrant, do you know of a policeman with that surname? can't remember his first name. x

Good Morning Valerie, Some times you just have to accept that some people can't see the wood for the trees and once their minds are made up that's it. Don't let it upset you... you know what you meant. Have a good day. Jean x.

Grannie, who sings Valerie? think i'll go and get it, and spend all day dancing.lol x

Hi all, I totally agree with what's been said by everyone. When we communicate face to face it's much easier and when we make a verbal 'boo boo' it's mostly accepted if we clarify it. Yet when it's in print ppl are given the third degree and it's not forgotten very quickly even if they have been misunderstood. Like Stelly I always try to read positively.....life's too short to get into cyber-conflicts! Have a great day, wherever you are! Aileenxxx

Valerie,its the same as texting.I have had to phone in the end to make the apology as someone has took it the wrong way.Have you got the record called Valerie?My hairdresser has it and i took no notice of it but i heard it on the radio yesterday so must be quite new out.Its quite catchy.Off to work now and everyone have a nice day Annie

my mum always says a problem shared is a problem halved xx

Good morning everyone,oh it's lashing down here in Surrey. Have a nice day xxx

you can go on and on explaining yourself that it was taken the wrong way, they still won't have it. If i was them, and they said i had read it wrongly, then i would except that and move on, but that's not the case for some, they like to carry on.

(((hugs)))) Val, havnt read any of your threads but i am glad you found some good people on here. I agree that things can be misunderstood, words sound different in the writers head than the readers, if one person is in a good mood it can sound light hearted and funny however if another person reads the same who is streesed or angry it can sound nasty or hostile So yes please do read threads after writing them to make sure they read ok...but also please please if you read a thread that sounds nasty, first check if it is your mood that is influencing the way you are reading it i have fallen fowl of this myself and taken offence of something because i read it in my voice rather than the way it was intended lol But most of all (and i will shut up after i have finished this honset) i just want to say, most people on GR are lovely, kind, generous people always ready to help, listen, cheer up others and have a laugh, keep up the good work