General Chat

Very glad this seems to be sorted out now and amicably too, hope life is easier for you now.

Jax I am so pleased that it has all turned out OK after all......but this has nipped it in the bud and everyone can now know that there is a problem, and can deal with it... It took a bit of time for me to put my case......that was because OH is an only child and I didn't want to cause a rift.......

Oh Jax, I am so pleased for you! See what you can do!! Well done, glad FIL saw it your way too!!! Bet you feel loads better!! Here's to many happy years with MIL from now on.....cheers!! (this time of day-it's only coffee I'm afraid!) Nanna-Moo ;-))

Jax thats fantastic.....what a result and what a lovely FIL :)) Much happiness Debi -x-

Sorry hun gawd im ignorant I forgot to update you all. OH went to sort it out after work and his dad got involed to and wanted to know what she was playing at and told her to stop being so nasty, that I am good to her and if she carries on the way she is going she will lose me, so she did phone back to apologise which I accepted. I phoned her this morning to check she was ok and she said she didn't mean to be so interferring, so fingers crossed it is sorted. Thanks again for all your support. Jax xxxx

Oh wow - what a brilliant outcome, well done:o)) jude sarf wales :o) xx

I'm sorry jax but being the nosey moo that i am ...... did she call back last night at all at any time after she put the phone down on your rant? or is all good on the western front? Much happiness debi

Well done Jax - go girl:o))))) jude sarf wales :o)

Jax, you should keep your answerphone on all the time and change the message to something like ' I'm sorry I can't answer the phone right now, my mother-in-law ( name) calls so often that it stops me doing any work so I am catching up now!' Joking apart, it sounds as if she sits at home worrying about her son's relationship with you because she has nothing else to think about so she hassles you to try and get everything to be the way she wants it. Controlling, I agree. What about involving her in a big way in one small area of your life, eg food shopping or walking the dog or something, just with her, so that she feels included somewhere? It might cut down her desire to know what's going on all the time.

No Deanna, I think that is something different and I would probably do the same for a while. Nanna-Moo ;-) (I can understand the 'comfort blanket' thing entirely!)

Thanks Jax....cos I thinks I is a real wonderful MIL! Whether DIL would agree or not.... best not ask eh?? ;-0) Deanna X

Deanna that would be fine hun, it's the constant checking up on me that gets to me.

lol Liz-be passing them out later!!! Nanna-Moo ;-))

I phone my son every night at about eight to say goodnight!!! would that annoy you girls? I only started that last October after we nearly lost him. I have to admit that it has become my *comfort blanket*. Deanna X

Well that's brought things to a head, better than stewing so hopefully all will change now, without too much illfeeling. I suppose she could be concerned, maybe she worries about road accidents and such, but if that is the case, she should get some help and explain her reasons. Is your o.h. about later or can ring her and sort this out, he has to be seen to be supporting you on this. Good luck, Helmet on in case of fall-out! lol Liz

Honestly, you shouldn't have to feel like this, it's so silly!! Glad you are feeling better, stick to your guns and just be polite, disarm her with charm, but make sure if you are not happy with something you say so there and then. Don't let things fester. It's so much easier just to say'..well, actually, I/we don't really want to or think I/we can......do that...', if you know what I mean! Hope that means you get a quieter life.... Nanna-Moo ;-)

My problem is the fil. Some 10 years ago he told my other half to 'get that trollop out of my house' not been in since. He blames me for breaking up his sons first marriage, I did not. We have been together 24 years and 2 months today and I think that stands for something. As for mil...she is a dear, but belongs to the old school of thinking, saying, voting the way her husband dictates. Kathlyn

Do you think she's insecure??? I agree with nanna - don't apologise just act nice etc but be firm. Much happiness Debi

Tell ya what Nanna, it's made me feel loads better lol

Good for you....and here endeth the first lesson!! Let's hope she has finally got the message...... Nanna-Moo ;-))) (whatever happens next, don't apologise, be pleasant, but make sure she has accepted she has no right to check up on you!)