General Chat

how odd that the person who was so concerned was also the person that was happy to broadcast my personal details to all and sundry - double standards?

The bit that you need to change in your account details is where it asks for birth surname

well,that wouldnt of been me.and i'm sorry to hear that that happened to u.we should all feel that our personal stuff stays just that...

Clare........when Joy clicked on my name on the board she could see my surname even though we have exchanged pm's on many occasions

kim i think the personal details are only showing if the person you message isnt in you contacts already! Thats what has happened on mine! My maiden name has always shown when i have messaged someone regardless of my board name. It makes no difference to me but i think its awful for anyone that doesnt like their details showing just from a pm!

I came to the conclusion a long time ago that too many knew too much about me so I drew a big line under it all and removed my tree from every public site as i felt hounded. That being said. I wouldn't want the same details about any one else as it's none of my business despite what I went through. Wrong is wrong and that is that. xx

Jeanette It must be a glitch in the system with the changeover as i didnt have that, but some of my contacts personal details are showing and others do not! Even my uncles year of birth is showing!

It is common knowledge that certain people on this site 'harvest' information and I believe that this new format will only help them in their sad quest. A person's private details should remain so

Ok someone just emailed me with what I should look for. Kim

Totally agree!

Glitch or not Clare, it shouldn't be happening. Very naughty GR!!!

I am not an adoptee, nor involved in the adoption triangle, but I am VERY annoyed to discover, by looking at 'My Contacts' that my maiden name and year of birth appear as a default 'title' in contact messages.. Why on earth this should be, I do not know, as I NEVER send a message without a title (usually name and birth year of the person I am interested in) What makes it worse is that I cannot find the messages that these contacts supposedly sent me - one I do know was a recent auto 'reply' to a message I never sent! I abandoned my tree on here long ago, but I think now is the time to remove it - and me - completely. I particularly do NOT want my real name known on here, as when I used to post in my real name, I realised that google picks up all sorts of other things about me. All harmless on their own, but could be made use of by some mischief maker. Furious. OC

Right. Changed my maiden name and my year of birth. How utterly ridiculous. OC

bleddy good job me n R Olive aint hitched up then init.... Scustin I call it...the peeps on here who give out all your details...shouldnt be allowed...Im Cross

Hi everyone i understand what your all saying and im a bit miffed orf coz i have contacts ive never had before lol ( not the end of the world though is it ?) they have my tree also ( i tick the the sqaure to not show tree SIMPLE ) (still not the end of the world ) but this is a geanolgy site is it not ? if peeps change their details to goodness knows what how are peeps like me going to find them ? im looking for my adopted sister im looking for relitives i have that do not know i exist , how can i find them if peeps change their names. im lost as to why peeps use this site if someone has 1 in tree how are peeps soppose to share info or even know if they have a connection Rosex

Rose mate You prob mean me cos I only have one in my tree now - you know why. However, this site is still a useful one for me as I use the search facility for any new names I get and share my info on a needs to know basis that way. It may not be ideal but I feel the need to protect what is left of my privacy. Sadly I think many others may go the same way with this new system. I don't give a monkeys btw how long someone has been a member for and all that jazz. but i do think that bandying personal info about is more than a bit off xx

Zaccerley Muffles x

Lairy I prefer to do my own searching on this site, not wait for GR to send me a load of Not Matches. I joined this site because I thought it was a genealogy site, not a finding living people site. I now see that many people are interested in tracing the living, and that is fine - but I don't want to be traced. There are a few serious weirdoes on this site, and many more on the internet at large - all of whom can come on here and silently take note. And we are told that all our details on here are private - but it is obvious today, that they are not! OC

yes muffy i agree (and dont worry the sucsess person showed us and all google all about u so dont worry lol) but that still doesnt help someone like me does it lol ( VIOLINS playing ) I cant even find my great gran ,,,, (YES STILL LOL) Rosex

I can see where you are coming from Rose xx