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I thought it strange that you can express endless compassion for members and their friends/family on here but show no concern for your OH's pain and concerns.

It is hard work caring for our partners when they are poorly or in pain, but that's all part of a good relationship.

i have twice nursed my husband through recovery from major surgery, once life-threatening, and a long recovery from 4 broken ribs after a fall at work..........he has always helped out when I have been poorly too, I am a worse wimp than he could ever be!

Sorry I misread the humour :-D

Hi all, well I picked up the patient who was in fine form and even managed to get out of the car to open the petrol cap which sticks and causes me difficulty when I need to fill up the tank.

He has been happy all evening, saying he is amazed how quickly the time went from when they gave him the anaesthetic to when he came round but he had an epidural as well as general a. and a further top up after the op so at the mo is more or less numb. Just hope when that wears off the prescribed painkillers are enough as he has a low pain threshold. He is looking very odd in his navy blue stockings with one toe peeping out on each foot!

Ann, he took the pics on his camera, not sure if he will upload them to the computer lol

Kitty, I have been treating it all lightheartedly as he was so scared of the op, now he is thinking it was all a doddle and knows it had to be done, so the sooner the better and now he has a week off work. I didn't want him to think I was worried ( well I wasn't really as I knew he would be in good hands), it was just the getting him there, I really thought he would back out and say he wouldn't bother having the op done.

I will say that he is not a good carer when I am poorly with my fm and cfs, he will leave me to rest but also to starve or die of thirst if I don't struggle down to get myself sustenance. He is very much out of sight, out of mind with everyone so I can't rely on him to look after me.

He has masses of literature that they printed out for him which is very interesting and he has a number to call if he is worried about anything. One paragraph mentions washing in plain water, not soapy stuff but the doc told him not to bother and to use whatever he normally uses so I will leave him to it with that. I did pass on the tip about the hairdryer, thanks.

Errol, our local hospital often has extra weekend clinics to catch up on backlog of ops like this which is a very good service. It brings the lists down. Despite the fact that our old hospital closed down which was in the city centre, when the new hospital was built, it is a good hospital, just several miles out of the city now. It's actually called the Norfolk and Norwich University hospital as it's a teaching hospital too and is next door to our fantastic research park, including John Innes and Food Research etc. I believe they have just received more funding from the government for Medical Research which is a positive thing.

Anyway my friends, thanks for all the info, good wishes and humour - I did tell o.h. I had put this on the boards and he didn't seem perturbed. I think he is enjoying being the centre of attention, altho no one rang him to see how he got on or to wish him luck before hand. Funny old family, we have let them know he is home and ok.

Just hope the pain relief will be enough to keep him in good humour, he is planning to take things easy with me doing the necessary with meals, laundry etc etc so I am sure he will be happy to let me escape and leave him to catch up with the programmes he's recorded and not watched and recover at his leisure.

Lizx

Dear Purple

Hello

Hope your OH is okay now.


Don't forget to take care of yourself too.
Best wishes
Love Elizabeth,
xx

Hope all has gone well Liz and bits are in good order.

;-).... :-D

I hope he is more sympathetic when you are in pain, poor man. :-(

Hope all went well.

Gwynne

LIz - do not be surprised if anything important in that area turns jet black and I mean jet black! :-D :-D

Liz, my deepest sympathy to you.

Oh, and sympathy to K too of course.

<3 <3 <3

Liz, hope the op went well for K and that he is now home. Will be thinking of you both in the coming week.

As the others have said, it will be a great idea to find a good coffee shop to go to next week.lol!!

Love, Sallie.xx

Liz hope all goes well <3

I think I will move to your health authority - you are very lucky to have non-emergency ops on a Saturday.
He will just need a little tlc and he will be fine.

Liz,

Its a big stage in his life!!

many of us that were "done" as babies don't have the before or after memory.......

but he will find( no doubt) as sensitive areas are........

it will be mega sensitive after it is all healed but that will wear off, after a while....

Presumably that was on his phone. I hope it doesn't fall into the wrong hands. Is he intending to sue if he doesn't like how it looks?

p.s. he took pics, before and later on, will be an after one! Why???????? I know his memory is bad but fgs.....


Lizx

Well I left him there being very brave, got there at 11am and he wasn't called in until nearly 12 after which I poodled off in the car to get a particular whisky for his father for F.D. as he is sure he will be well enough to deliver it ?????? Found a new charity shop near the shop he sent me to, so had a browse and got some bargains, and now at home for a little while having a sandwich and cuppa. Will go back in the direction of the hospital soon as they have my mobile number and will then be nearer when they call, it's over 8 miles from here and I know he will want to get home asap

Problem is nearly every route has speed bumps etc, can see it will be a long way home and watching out for potholes as well.

I shall certainly be going out on several errands next week leaving him to watch tv in his recliner, popping painkillers!

Wendy, he never goes on sites like this nor do his friends or family, I haven't commented on facebook lol

Anyway men should be more open and able to talk about these things, as with stuff like prostate cancer etc. If you had heard him trying to tell his Dad over the phone, without mentioning the word, I kept whispering in the background Snip snip! Then I shouted out, Oh by the way, he's not having a vasectomy! O.h.'s face was a picture! I had already told his son before we visited last week so it wasn't so long winded talking to him about it.

Heyho, off I go.....

Thanks for all the good wishes and suggestion re hairdryer! Knowing him he will flick the wrong switch and scorch himself.

Gwen, stop laughing, you will set me off!

Lizxxxx

Hi Liz
Hopefully he will get lots of sleep after and you can relax. I hope it all goes well for him.

I did have to smile at this bit in your opening post...

"He has been very cagey about the op, not telling many people"

I hope he never reads this thread or your name will be a lot worse than mud

Wendy x

HI LIZ,,I KNOW IM BEING HORRIBLE BUT I JUST CAN'T STOP
LAUGHING.

Hi Liz hope every thing goes well for your OH and for you, I'll be thinking of you :-) :-)

Hi Liz, hope things go well for your OH and the pain will not be as bad as he expects.
Will be thinking of you doing your 'nursing' bit, I think the suggestion of finding a nice coffee shop to visit frequently is a good idea, keep you sane, xxx
<3 :-) :-)

(some) "Women!"

they have NO idea what pain and suffering we men have to bear.....

My thoughts are with you both,Liz ..

best wishes to him..........