General Chat

yes, you are right, but ending up as a homeless youngster, I wasn't equipped to be in any relationship. a spiral of despair followed, then I came across my mentor, who inspired me, becoming a successful businesswoman. but, I must admit, a deeply damaged one, still battling of events so long ago.
I feel strong, reading these replies, is helping so much.(I have read the file twice, but haven't made sense of it all)

This is one reason I spoil my children with love. I vowed I would never be so hateful to say such things even in a quick temper tantrum. I can honestly say I have kept true to my word though at times they could be right little B*****s ;-) :-D.

oh my goodness, such kind replies, so quickly! unfortunately there were no other relatives close by to talk to.my mother turned me against my father as she despised him too, but through the file I found that it was only my father who tried his best against the odds.my younger sister was also despised, even being told she wasn't wanted.
over fifty years later, a very painful time.
wish I could shout it from the rooftops to all, think about the damage you are doing, put your children first!

Hazel my friend we have something in common. My dear so called mother always told me I was never wanted and that she hated me. My older sister could do no wrong it was as if the stars shone out of her A**e where my mother was concerned. Thank goodness my Dad was an absolute darling and so was my Aunt who lived just around the corner , she was my 'Mum' :-)

Oh that is so sad for you, I don't really know what to say as I don't know how or why your mother could be like that with you but sadly it does happen. I hope that you have been able to read the file and put it away in the past .
I wish you well.

Oh Hazel,

You must feel dreadful and still reeling from the reports and opening up old feelings,,,,,,but having what you imagined happened confirmed releases you from any guilt that any of it was your fault.....also being the case it was,there would have been no motherly love during your childhood should you have stayed in her care,which may have led to many nasty things,,,,,,I imagine life at the school wasnt a bed of roses back then,but may have given you a grounding to be the person you are today.

i'm a pensioner, but due to certain reports in the national press, I applied for my file from the days when I was in an approved school in the 60's.
I was shocked, but not really surprised to read comments and statements from my mother, which confirmed that she had never liked or wanted me, preferring my older sister. yet it is a life changing event, that at 60plus, to read such emotive statements from my mother.
how can a mother have rejected her 14 year daughter from the day that she was born?
still shuddering from the shock of seeing it written in black and white