General Chat

I understand Errol, but the ruling is for children, once they get to a certain age they have the right to say whether they want to or not, then the choice is theirs, if that makes sense, i just confused myself lol

Anyhow, after a certain age, it is the kids right to decide, i stand by my sons decision, also my daughters,

Such is life eh? Hard being a parent at times :-)

I think, mads, that the fear is that if it goes to court then it is set in stone if you see what I mean. In other words if the child turns around at a stage in their life where they are not able to make informed decisions and says they never want to see their mother or father again then the court can set it as a legal right of the child and their final decision

Why would a father (or mother) be denied contact unless for safety reasons??

An "absent" parent can go to court etc to gain access, i dont understand why that parent wouldnt do that. I dislike my ex husband with a passion, i never once stopped him seeing our kids when they were young, they have made their own mind up, they see him except for my son who is now an adult, refuses point blank to acknowledge him as a father.

I just shared knowledge that is all

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I'll always be pleasant to you Errol because you helped me so much with my computer problems when I first joined this site.

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well they must have been Pauline, that is why you are such a pleasant poster

Yes, I agree with that Errol. I think there's a few people on here would back you up with that one as well.

By the way................ both my parents were good parents. :-D

Happy Fathers Day...........to all Fathers who deserve to be in contact with their children. <3

yes absolutely Pauline - and the same applies to mothers

Sometimes fathers aren't allowed contact with their children because the children's safety is paramount.

Not all fathers are good fathers.

hey Mersey
Just wanted a thread that remembered dads
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I dont understand whats going on but heyho whats new lol

please, I do not want any nastiness on this thread - it really is just about remembering dads - nothing more nothing less

well to all the absent fathers out there .. try harder
toodles i need me bed :)

sorry Lairy please accept my apologies - I did not realise we had met.
Now, to get back to the original topic and not get bogged down by people who are happy to make wild assumptions about people they have never met... can we please remember those fathers who do not see their children but do care

I think blame is very difficult to apportion in any failed relationship ( and God knows I should know lolol). One of the strongest relationships I ever witnessed and thought was a certainty to last for ever and a day, was in tatters a couple of years later, people change, or DON'T change. No one outside the couple can really know what the factors really were in a breakup.

I will be thinking of two gentlemen this father's day, one who doesn't see his children but loves them to bits, and my heart bleeds for him.

ummmmmmmm perhaps coz i know who you are lol

Lairy what on earth are you basing that on?

um, Lairy, how do you know what age my daughter is and whether I even have a daughter? Scary lol
Mildred - a very valid point

Errol to be honest . you did doo a big boo boo and hurt her mum , so there is ya answer . The mum dont have to put things in the childs head , the child aint blind and can see the hurt caused , maybe in time she will see what and why but until then (if ever) just keep trying ... But sometimes when you hurt a daughters mum you can not be forgiven easily