General Chat

As others said - keep talking - let it all out - do not bottle it up. We are all here for you.

All here listening Uzzi, you are doing OK so far. :-)

Uzzi, I can understand how bewildered and frazzled you must be feeling, and hope things get sorted out soon

Lizxx
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i Do hope that things will settle down for you Uzzi ,i had a hell of a time with my mum and dad when their health started to fail with a 300 odd mile trip every weekend to make sure they were okay ,but she is your mum ,and it's obvious that ,like me ,you love your mum a heck of a lot ,and no matter what ,you want the best for her.
Once she gets used to the place ,she will soon find friends for people to talk to and go out with ,and hopefully half the load will be lifted from yours ,and hubbys shoulders .
Best of luck to you both,Fred. :-)

Hello Uzzi...good to see you posting, keep it up, talking is good. Its a big worry for you and you're doing great:)
Take care:))

jude xx

Uzzi, I haven't read all your thread, but it appears from what I have read, you're having a bad time, sorry to hear that.

I don't know if this will help, but my Dad was living in Spain, and I, was here in England, when he went into a care home, obviously it was difficult with me here, and him there, I was visiting every 3 weeks, but the care home was like a 5 star hotel, the care was beyond what I could have imagined, and the cost was less than a quarter of what he would of paid here.

I looked for care homes near me for him, and found I either couldn't get him in, without him being assessed, couldn't do that as he wasn't living here, and the homes that would take him, I wouldn't have left my cat for the night, they were disgusting.

The care he got in Spain , he could never have got here, the home had a gym, a chapel, a library, and events went on throughout the day. There was a separate bar and cafe for him to take his guests and his room was wonderful. They never knew when I would visit, I always found him in a clean state.

I knew nothing about this home, before he went, and he knew little about it either, of course I was concerned about his welfare, so I rang Help the aged here, and asked if they could tell me of an organisation, in Spain that I could talk to, and was very surprised to find out that Help the aged have branches in Spain, and very lucky for us they had one not far away.

I told them my concerns i.e I knew nothing about the home, apart from it looking wonderful, they asked me to leave it with them, and within a week, I had a phone call telling me that 3 ex nurses from the U.K were visiting the home in the next few days, to see what they thought of it, while there they would also see my Dad for me.

The outcome was, they came back with a glowing report of how it was run. Luckily for me one of the ex nurses, offered to visit my Dad once a week, when I wasn't there.

What I'm saying is if you need help contact Help the aged, they maybe able to help you in your dilemma.

Sorry if this has been covered on other replies, but as I said I haven't read all the thread, as I haven't got time today.

Good Luck

So it's all going well then :-S ;-) :-0 :-)

As others have said, keep talking. Hopefully it will all be sorted soon.

Jacky x

I can´t even begin to update but I will be back soon and believe me it will be laughter, tears and hair tearing if I really go for it

Thankyou everybody who has taken the time to be here.

Cant wait Uzzi... :-D


Marilyn x

Well you mustn't hold back when you tell us the story Uzzi, you know we feel for you and will only laugh in the appropriate places, and sigh and sympathise at the rest.

Hope things are working into place slowly but surely

You have been in my thoughts

Lizxx

Hang in there Uzzi ,things will get better before long ,and we are ALL here for you ,take care Fred :-).

I have been thinking of you Uzzi and today is Thursday - your visit day. Keep smiling and let it all out on here - we will listen to you.
Take care
Love Mary xx

Hope all is going well for you Uzzi
Mau xxx :-)


Fred were you visiting St.Marys? (Avatar) :-D

Chin up Uzzi. <3

We are all here for you Uzzi ......keep smiling and it will work out in the end even though you dont feel it at the minute........ :-) <3

You Have to be joking Mau ' :-D.it's my second home ,lol,my family have strict instructions to scatter my ashes there ,when the time comes ,if they don't i will come back to haunt them ,he he . :-) Fred.

Once again I haven´t the heart to update yet, I am keeping a record of it all but not written well. Mind when I do have the heart back BEWARE it will be enough to do an hour show !
Sorry if I start about one thing I have to explain about the rest and then my fears and my laughter. Plus my hurts and tears, and that I am not ready to open up yet. Not because I don´t trust you all, but because I don´t trust me to open that space and cope. I´m holding together very well but I have to keep those plasters sticking, If I leak, I´ll either end up in a nut house or in nick





.....unless we can come up with the perfect murder :-D

thanx everybody
Uzz xx

Uzzi
The whole situation and to-ing and fro-ing between countries would drive anyone to despair, without the barrage of words thrown into the mix.
Hang in there.
It will come right one day and in the meantime let lose on us here when you're ready.

Take care.

Gwyn

Thankyou Gwyn, at the moment Mum is 2hrs away from me in Benidorm. Trust me it would be easier if we didn´t have to run up there everytime T has a day off. She wants to stay in Spain when her holiday finishes and I agreed for a time. Now I just want her to sod off home and give me breathing space. It´s hard to explain,

Don't be hard on yourself Uzzi, you need a life too, take a step back, and look after yourself, even if only for a day.
Good Luck with it all, unfortunately I know what it's like, you will get there x