General Chat

Shirley, I am sorry you were unable to attend William's funeral as it would have been good to hear about him from his friends and colleagues and have more memories to add to your own. However your husband's health is important and no one would have wanted him to go and feel worse or pass on his germs. Hope he is recovering now and will be well over Christmas. I hope your sister and all the family can remember happy times with William to help them through and also that your daughter can accept that her life isn't likely to follow the same pattern. Has she googled support groups, there might be some online ones that she can access and find someone else to share her worries with.

OllietheOwl, I am so sorry for your awful loss in 2005. Your son was not much older than my son now and I worry all the while about losing him, he is my only child too and I had to wait a long while for him having lost my daughter at three days old, eight years before my son's birth. It must be so very hard for you over this festive time knowing the anniversary of the tragedy is coming up. My daughter was born on Jan 31st 1974 and died 3rd February that year so I always remember that Christmas when I was so happily pregnant not knowing what lay ahead then. Will be thinking of you.

Brenda, how tragic for your d.i.l.'s family to lose yet another loved one so soon after your d.i.l. died. I hope your presence can help the family through as they will be missing their Mum and their Aunt, maybe the thought of the two of them reunited can bring a little comfort.

Take care and try not to do too much, been thinking of you over there and wondered how you were getting on.

Lizxxx

So sorry to hear this news.As you say it is so sad to lose a child,no matter how old.It is not the first death I have heard of this last week.the sister of my late d.i.l.died on 14th after suffering cancer 18 months after my d.i.l died.I am in Oz at the moment with my son and his two children,playing mum,and trying to give them a good Christmas,especially as this news brings back memories to them.
My condolences to all your family during this very hard time.
Brenda x

Shirley
I am so sad for you all. It does make it worse that it has happened at this time. I am sure you will be there for your sister to help in any way, now and for the years ahead. We lost our only child he was run over the early hours of New Years Day 2005, 19 days before his 30th birthday. Married but no children. My sisters have helped me cope, by just being there for me, letting me cry and laugh and reminising. I find Christmas and New Year horrendous. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Update

Well the sad thing is that OH has been fighting off flu for 3 weeks. There's a flu going around that has you fighting it off for a couple of weeks and just when you think its going it comes on full blown flu. We went shopping on Tuesday the 31st instead of out usual main wed shop so we could go to the funeral, OH wasnt very well and was unable to drive home, He got steadily worse and went down with full blown flu which went to his chest with a hacking cough, He wasnt able to go to mass which was a great blow cos he wouldn't miss mass no matter what.

i have spoken to my younger brother who did go to the funeral and although it was sad it was also a great occasion as many of Williams football and work colleagues also attended. His former wife as well as their children attended ,although they had divorced they had remained on good terms.

My sister and her hubby did find it hard though ,as you would expect when losing a child.

Shirley...l will be thinking of you all on Wednesday. Take care

jude xx

She doesnt have a support group she can ask for reassurance from She did say she was worried in case she had a relapse the same as William , i have tried to reassure her that hers was a different cancer and everyone's experience differs. Have told her to relay her fears to the doctor when she next goes to the doctor. She is on a mild tranquiliser anyway because she stresses out and stress isnt good for anyone .

I am sure that it will have an effect on your daughter, she is probably thinking 'Why him and not me?' I hope she can overcome those feelings and stay strong. Does she have a support group to talk to?

This is such sad news.My sincere condolences to all William's loved ones.

Eileen

I am so sorry to hear of your loss will remember him in my prayers and light a candel for you
Margaret x

My thoughts are with you all at this sad time. Cherish your memories of a special man.
R I P William.
Very best wishes to your daughter for her continued recovery too.

Cath xx

I hope your daughter can find some support elsewhere to allay her fears and hope too that she can continue her current good health. It's obviously going to be on her mind all the while at the mo but maybe as time goes on, and she stays well she can feel more positive again.

Lizx

My prayers are with you all at this sad time.
I hope you find comfort in one another.God Bless.
R.I.P William

Emma x

Thank you all.

Our daughter got her 5 year all clear in Oct and despite some residual damage to the nerves in her feet and hands from the chemo she is doing well .

The loss of William though has hit her hard and naturally giving her some worry over herself too.

How sad, I am sorry you have lost such a special brave member of your family.
Rest in peace, William, your family chain is linking together in another place now.

Lizx

r i p william

Thoughts and prayers, Shirley.

Wend x

Sincere Condolences to you and Williams family at this time.

So sorry to hear of the loss of William.
I will be thinking of all your family xx

Thats so sad. How heartbreaking for you all. My thoughts are with you

Sending my sincere condolences to you and all the family at this
very sad time.

Also thinking of your daughter and hope that she makes a complete rcovery.


Sallie.x