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Colin. Make sure you keep an account of whats going on, another thing to realise is if you did leave your job because of the bullying and victimisation you can still claim for unfair dismissal.

Hi Col
what Tiger Lil has said is very good advice plus you can talk to somebody at ACAS for more advice
You will need to keep a record and dates of everything you can remember no matter how small it is

Colin,

I have dealt with both bullying and work related stress complaints, so here are some thoughts for you to consider.

If you havent already done this, I suggest you keep a record of dates and times that your manager criticises you and your team, and what exactly has been said. If you see your doctor, please tell him exactly why you are under stress so that it is on record. A decent company should have a policy on bullying and also on workplace stress and any record you keep will support your complaint and strengthen your case. You could contact HR first and make a complaint - if they do nothing, going sick with work related stress should focus their minds. They will know that there is a possibility of a constructive dismissal claim as their failure to act on your complaint has resulted in you going sick and they should then start to take you seriously, if they haven't before. However, if you just go sick, they could always claim that they weren't aware of the bullying and didn't have the opportunity to address it.

I know you are going through a rotten time, but unless you really want to leave your job, don't give up. Good luck.

Hello Colin.

Sorry to hear of your situation. But I can relate to it.

My immediate line manager, is not my best friend. No worries there!

But, a number of my colleagues, do appear to be!

Although, on this occasion, bullying is,perhaps, a strong word to use, I have,in the past, felt excluded, when the others have got together, and I have not been told about things,until after the event.

To feel that you are more valued, if you are friends with the boss, makes us others, feel in our manager's eye, we are of less value to her!

I nearly walked out of a meeting today but I know thats what the manager wants and Im not willing to give them that satisfaction - but i'm close to snapping

Colin have a word with the CAB (citizens advice) they should be able to help.

I too was bullied/picked on by a chef while working in a hotel kitchen, it got to the point I pulled a knife to him - I just snapped... I went right to the hotel owner and told her I was leaving that I would finish my week off and that would be it, I finished my shift went home and wrote my resignation.
It was getting to such a point I was wondering what it would be like to drive into a big tree that I passed on my way to work.

I have never looked back since leaving.

No, no union where I work and even HR are petrified of the manager in question - I do get full sick pay so may well see my GP and see if he will sign me off with work related stress

Do you belong to a Union - if so, contact them. There are too many bullies about these days.
Liz

Has anyone had any experience of being bullied at work by a senior manager?
I am currently being victimised and my area of the operation is being unfairly foused on and Im being constantly criticised for both my performance and that of my staff.
Other than go sick or quit (which is what my manager is striving to get me to do) has anyone got any ideas of how to address the matter?