General Chat

Hello Ladies,
thankyou so much for all your hugs, pm's and lovely thoughts for me these last few days.
I have a afternoon on my own as my son has taken Ed over the flat as last week the hallway was painted a beigey colour and to me it looked more like a pink/ peach colour and l wasn't happy with it so my son is now painting it old faithful *magnolia*.
Hopefully we will be in the flat on Thursday/ Friday so that will help me.
I am trying to sort out the shower controls at the moment as would you believe there outside of the shower so have O.T. coming out on Wednesday to take a look and get it sorted.
We are not going far this weekend as weather is yuk, lol,.
Really do hope you all have a nice long weekend and Ann sorry the sun isn't shining for your return.
Daff hope OH's back is easing and your feeling ok.
Speak soon, xx

Hello to everyone hope you are all feeling well, it seems to have stopped raining here for the moment.

Daff I am very well thank you for asking, we have finally got around to buying the paper and paint etc for the bedrooms just have to empty the wardrobes and move them. Why do we have so much stuff? lol


Have a good weekend all

Ginniexx

Well.... lost me words again, lol... *glares at the back arrow* I opened anothe page to see what the date is today....

Ann and T have a lovely flight home.... and the rain is awaiting your arrival. It is chucking it down here! Still, the gardens really need it.

Maz, have a nice easy week off... you have certainly earned it. Hopefully the weather will improve for you.

~~~~~ to Ginnie... how are you?

Sends loads of (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) to Mummo.

~~~~~ little wave in the general direction of the Emerald Isle.

Love

Daff xxxx

hi there well here we arae a week off its Half term
hope everyones journeys are event free and enjoying their breaks .I am really going to slow right down next week and enjoy myself have a couple of jobs to do but they will be easy enough .

Mummo I so agree with Ann, you and Eddie have been through so much in a short space of time and you have coped with looking after Eddie and keeping things going and now the move which is stressful enough when it has been planned for some time how much more so when in your situation.
Thinking of you both and sending you loads of hugs and best wishes.


Ginniexxx

Just popped in quickly to send some more ((((((hugs)))))) for Mummo, and to ~~~~~~ to everyone... I have a busy day, so can't stop long.... on my way out to do some shopping, boring old food, but never mind, its a trip out.

~~~~~~ to Ann and everyone looking in.

Love

Daff xxxxxx

Mummo, I would be very surprised if you were not depressed, you had the shock of Eddie's fall, then supporting him while in hospital, coping with everything with little or no help from those who should have given you support and now coping with a move forced on you by circumstances which is traumatic and upsetting. I am surprised you lasted this long.

I sooo admire you and you should feel proud of yourself for coping so well, many would have fallen at the first hurdle. So, well done for making a doctors appointment and admitting how you feel. You can pm me any time, but you already know that I'm sure. Try and snatch a few minutes for yourdelf if you can to collect your thoughts. I am thinking of you both. Take care.

((((((((((hugs))))))))))

Mummo, good on you for admitting to depression. That is half the battle, to talk about it, and the sooner the better. If you bottle it up it just gets worse and harder to climb out of. Best wishes to you and Eddie.

Huia.

Mummo, I have pm'd you, so I won't repeat what I said... well, except for the (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) cos the more you get the better.

BC won't mind if you wave your bloomers at her, actually, I don't think..... After all it is the thought that counts.

I am very busy wrighting out my *Welcome Home Ann and T* banner as well.... think I have all the spellings ok....

Well, they haven't done very well by Eddie, have they? Spiteful beggars.

As far as cancer is concerned, they say that one in 3 of us will have it at some stage in our lives... but when they happen in clusters like that..... yes, it makes you think.

Take care..... and even more (((((((((((hugs))))))))))

Love

Daff xxxxx

Hi all,
Have finally admitted to myself that l am suffering with depression and have made a doctors appointment for Tuesday am...........am so fed up with crying.
Daff l wondered about a certain area in Southampton where my sister used to live as she told me she lost both her next door neighbours when they were quite young then my sister died at 48 and her OH was 67 when he died and all died of cancer, did make me think.
Got quite cross yesterday as Eds firm came out to tell him that he is now finished with them, that did upset him but we knew it was coming but what annoyed me was that just before the accident he was paid 8 hours overtime for the extra day they have to work for the run up for Xmas and seeing Ed never worked it they were going to deduct the hours from his final pay packet................shame on you Morrisons Ed was a bl@@dy good employee, put his heart and soul into the job.
BC so sorry that l never got the chance to wave my hanky ( whoops haven't got one ). lol.
Daff hope OH feels better soon.
Ann have a safe journey home.
Sorry gone on a bit haven't l !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Take care all, x

hi again well its not very warm here but it is dry just lol

And Chepstow... and there have been clusters all along the Estuary.... it makes sense, actually. I have always said that all my silly little niggles were caused by something in childhood.... I used to play on those mudflats, and there are about 6 powerstations pumping in on both sides at that point....

I was tough as nails, I reckon, so avoided it in childhood... but have had other triggers which have all been about wrong place wrong time. But the foundation stone for this was almost certainly from then... I lived there from 4 until age 11, so just as my body was developing. I used to go swimming in the little *pools* of tidal flow... a whole load of us did... of course, we were banned from going, which all added to the thrill!

I have e-mailed my consultant with all the references and the numbers who have had cancers. We would have been the first generation growing up there.

I find it all very fascinating... almost from an academic rather than a personal position. I will keep dredging up info.....

Love

Daff xxxx

I know there were cases in the Lydney area and I believe also on the Cotswold side.

Ahhhhhh!! The Severn Estuary... which is a quarter of a mile from us here... and a little bit further along the coastline....a quarter of a mile from where I lived as well.... and an area known as the lambies was where we used to go on hot summer days with our jam sandwiches and bottles of pop.... the lambies is where the estuary floods at high tide, some areas only at the highest of high tides (I live in what used to be one of those areas now, reclaimed) My mother always said the air was bad there... and that is where I started with all the strange rashes and sensitivities/allergies.

I will look carefully at that, thank you.... it sounds very very interesting!!

Love

Daff xxxx

Daff, not sure where you grew up exactly but there were cases of childhoos leukaemia around the Severn Estuary area I am sure, this was back in the 70s, I seem to remember the power stations being mentioned. It is interesting, as you say not to lay blame but finding a possible cause is half the battle for future generations.

Huia, I am not too sure about the pylons, I can't remember any... but there are beauties here, within spitting distance of my back fence, lol but we have only lived here since Sept 05. I am not sure what the water supply was... but it was Welsh water at the time, and probably wasn't contaminated.... if it was, most of Birmingham would have been ill by now, lol Edit: I have just thought.... actually there are masses of power pylons not all that far away, but it is a mile or so, I wouldn't think it was that. But... we all used to play there. I would like to know if it was just our little street or whether there were more that we did not know about spread over a wider area. This lady's mum still lives in the house, so maybe she'll know better.

Ann, you are right about the asbestos... and I know that the coalhouse roof was made of it. Also, I think it was used in the wall linings to insulate.

I don't actually blame anything... it is almost certainly been a series of triggers, which switched on the faulty gene... and nothing can now change that, it happened, and was going to happen. I can't be doing with the *why me* and never could.... although that is not to say I haven't felt sorry for myself and poorme.com, lol

But if it can be prevented for triggering the process in other children, then that is only a good thing, so I will do all I can to help the specialists understand how it all began.

Ann, tsk tsk.... poor T!! ;¬)) That is what holidays are for... enjoy the last couple of days!

As for R... I took GREAT delight in saying *I told you so* lolol...... so he won't be going back in tomorrow, either.

Love

Daff xxxxx

I am sure that there is a connection with asbestos and prefabs Daff, I seem to remember there was a problem when they were demolishing them.

Well we knew R should not have gone to work didn't we???

T has a thick head this morning, I feel fine. I should add that the large drink we had at Meme's was not the first of the day. We shared a bottle of cava before we went out, then at the restaurant there was a complimentary glass of dry sherry and we had a half litre of house red (which is quite a light wine). Good job we are home Saturday, my liver wouldn't stand much more.

What was the source of water?

Huia.

Any power pylons over the area, Daff?

Huia.

wmsl @Ann!! That sounds like a good drink, lol.... and I am sure you are right about roadworks on GR!! Grrrrrrr.

Waves little Nottingham Lace Hankie (clean, used only once) at BC as she heads off to the Emerald Isle...... have a lovely time, BC, don't give us a thought, back here, missing you...... *sobs* see you in a week then xxxxx

~~~~~ to Ginnie

wmsl @ Gizmo... they have different sounds for everything don't they? Hermie has two distinct yowls..... one is *mummy I'm home* and the other is *feed me now* lolol.... Jethro is much more eloquent... he says Mrrrrrrrrrllllll for food, mrrrrowulll for *I love you and want to wrap myself around your neck.....mrrrrriiilk for milk, please and lots of it..... and then he has a million other little vocalisations that all mean something different, lol And if we aren't fast enough he has a little Yilp that means *It's payback time and I am off to find something norty to do* We hear a lot of that one, lolol

R came home early, still in agony, so isn't going anywhere today, again.... the ladies he works with have all told him off, lolol.....

I also had two very interesting contacts yesterday. One from Ancestry, one from Friends Reunited.

The one from Ancestry lives about 4 miles from me, and we share Caroline Matilda, a feisty Cornish (edit, I missed a gt out... she is my gt ) Gt Grandmother.... I am further on in my research, but she has photos of my gt grandfather and her gt grandmother together... I have lots of Caroline and Daniel alone and with their children, plus some of Daniel's mother and Caroline's father.... and there is one we believe to be Caroline's father's mother at a very old age.. so I am sharing that info, plus certs and photos of grave site etc...

The second, well, it was lovely, but disturbing as well... she is definitely who she says she is... she has sent me a photo, taken in the same batch as some that I have, of all us street urchins playing in our garden. She was quite a bit younger... her older brother was more my age, and he will remember me... I bit him when he wrestled me to the ground once... bit so hard I drew blood through his jumper and his anorak... norty!!

Anyway, she lived right opposite me as a child, she and her sister have both had Leukaemia. The girl next door but one had leukaemia, too, then there was myself, and my bro with his Hodgkins Lymphoma. A little way down, the road.. and around the corner, was a large family, like my own... one girl died of breast cancer very young, and two of her sisters have had it. As has my sister... and there have been lots of other cancers within that group of children, as we have grown up. She believes that there may be a couple more with blood cancers... she will ask her mum.

For such a rare disease (Leukaemia and blood cancers), that is a lot of children from one small area and generation, who have developed it.

Our house.... and all the others on our side of the road... were prefabs. The other side of the road were brick built, but they were there when ours were being built.

It has really made me wonder whether this is a coincidence or not. I am e-mailing my consultant with the information later... it will be added to my file, as has washing R's kit when he got back from the first gulf war (oil and smoke from the burning oil fields) my smoking and my lovely ornamental pylon... they all go into the cooking pot of research.

So I am about to find out, if I can, what the houses were built from etc... as that might have had an effect on us kids in those early days of them being there... the houses were fairly new then.

Busy busy busy!!!

Have a lovely day, everyone... I have my research head on, lol

Love

Daff xxxxxxx