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My brother was the eldest but, my Dad asked me to deal with it...long story.

Hi,

It is when the assets of the deceased are frozen, however, on this link it will explain that funeral costs take priority over any other debts, the deceased may have.
It is possible if your Father has money in the Bank for them to release it to you to pay for the Funeral.
If you cannot afford it and he has no assets then you may qualify for a contribution towards the costs.
Take a look at this site, it offers a lot of practical info and explains it far better than I can :O)
Marion is right whoever, organises the Funeral pays the Bill.

My thoughts and prayers are with you love.
been there ,done that, 3 times now, and it doesnt get easier.
But you will come through it.
Take my word on that.
xxxx

Sorry Marion,

i have been pondering on what you were saying.

So it doesnt matter that im the eldest its who ever books it pays for it.

please dont do that Marion,

I didnt mean to ignore you

I will delete my posts as you dont seem to see them.

Thank you Sheila,

He doesnt have a will.

Whats probate?

Thank you Marilyn

Hi

So sorry to hear your news, and that you have all this to also deal with :O(
I have put a link below that may help you, from the CAB it will give you info regarding funeral arrangements, wills probate etc, as most of us do not have a clue till the first time we have to do it ......

/www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/family_parent/family/what_to_do_after_a_death.htm


Sending you, your Father and all your Family,
(((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))

IOM,

Sorry to hear about your dad .

Thinking about you both.

Marilyn x

Who ever organises it..gets the bill.
As far as I know you can also apply for help with it.Might be worth asking about it.

My Dad left some money but we had to add to it.
We wouln't have qualified for any help with it.

Funeral directors will guide you through the sad time, they did with me, it was the irst funeral that myself and immediate family had to arrange.

I heard or read somewhere a saying, grief is the price you pay for having loved someone.You always have memories.

take care.xxx.

When my dad died a few years ago a friend of my mum's who works at a funeral directors advised us to contact our local social services as we couldnt afford to spend a huge amount...plus he would have come back and haunted us if we had!
We found that social services have funeral directors that drastically reduce the amount having to be paid!
The whole funeral...cremation, one main car and preacher cost little under £2000! Alot less than other funeral directors!

Bev

Hi Kitty,

this will be my first funeral to organise.

I never it involved so much work.

You never think about your parents dying.

My mum has already paid for hers got her music sorted and everything.

Hi Pamela,

I wanted dad to come home (here with me) so he can go in with his parents.

But he wants to stay in Bournemouth with his friends and family(adult children) do there.

So very sorry to hear your sad news................I also lost my Dad in 2004, he had a church service, cremation then his ashes were interred in our local churchyard.

I think we all need to think about these things..............I remember vividly after seeing my Dad shortly after his death turning to the consultant and asking "what do I do now?"

I had no idea what needed to be done and in what order, I had never had to deal with a death and funeral etc before.

I hope the time you have left with your Dad is as loving and fulfilling as possible.

xx

So sorry to hear your very sad news. My dad passed away in 2004 and there wasn't a much difference in the price,and you can get a memorial stone at possibly a later date for your dad. My dad wanted to be buried as have amost of my late relatives, I miss him so much, but I personally find it a comfort to visit his grave,i know you don't live near, but I find it a comfort that he's still on this earth so to speak. Cremation seems so final, but it really is a personal thing.
My thoughts are with you and your dear dad.xxx.

thanks Chelsea,

but he missed a big part of my life. wedding grandchildren.

Now its just a battle with my half brother he wants his mother at the funeral and ive said no way as they are no longer married.

but thats another story.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

My Dad was cremated in April,down in Cheshire
Basic coffin...£400 which looked really nice,he wore his own clothes with heather on his buttonhole.
We had one family car, plus he was in the chapel of rest for anyone who wanted to see him..this was £300 alone for that.
We had CD's as to an organist.

Total bill for undertakers was £2040.Then you have to buy death certs etc.
His local pub put on food for us.


Marion

Sorry to hear your news..... I hope you all build some lovely memories whilst he's still with you

xx