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sorry forgot to say now i can not get a min to myself as three still live at home and the rest live 5 mins away .thay always know were thay are safe even the two that left at 16 .

Thank you all so very much x x

hi all i have two daughters and 5 sons all but one all in there 19 to 30 age first two were not to bad in teens the next two had there up and downs but it past ,the next two tuck me to hell and back as soon as thay were 16 left home. and the last one well he is only seven and is my great nephew that we have had from 7 months old he is loving at times but can been a pain taking thing that are not his and saying he did not do it.we have tryed to give his every think we could but sometimes i think am to old for all this now god help me when he is 15 . but then i look at all my kids with there kids and i am so proud of them now so we have to take the good with the bad sometimes.and we always hurt the one we love at times that live as thay say now it so diffrent to when we were there age .good luck it dos get better.

hi tina

wouldnt be a step parent for all the money in the world

i have a step dad and when i was 14 i made his life hell, we get on really well now but i have to admit i was a bitch to him.




us stop kids do usually turn into nice people honest



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Hello Tina
I am so sorry to read that you are having problems and even more sorry to hear that you have had a heart attack.

Please do take care.
Lots of love
Tina xxxx

Edit - sorry re-read!

I am so glad that your OH has got the gumption to stand up to his daughter and take your side.

Its not easy being a step mom - as I know from experience, if anything goes wrong its always the one stuck in the middle and get it from every side!

Still you need to take it easy. Cannot have a Tina poorly again. lol

Tina xxx

well done, hope things get alot better, and good luck

andie

Good news then Tina, admitting she was wrong and an apology too!!

Good luck, hope things get better from now on.

Good for you, girl!
(Doing my Mumsy bit there, lol)
x

I've just read this through, Tina, and I was so sad until I read your latest reply. I'm glad that both your OH and your daughter did the right thing; I know teenagers do things like that but it's extremely inconsiderate of them to treat you so badly when you've been very ill.

Sending you love and gentle ((( hugs ))) xx

Well dont Tuna, proud of you hun, by God i know how hard this situation is!!


Caz xxxxxx

So glad things calmed down Tina, and that you got back up and an apology. You concentrate on yourself now and make sure you spend some housekeeping on new makeup, buy cheaper food and they will have to like it or lump it lol
Good for you for sounding off, he needed it!
Lizxx

** clings tightly to tanturm crown **

Sorry Tina, didn't read your update, so glad you feel better and she had the good grace to apologise...x sally

Go and borrow some of her stuff and just leave it lying around, she will soon get the message......sauce for the goose and all that.....

Well done Tuna, you go girl!

Now you've earned a rest and a treat....

glad today ended well for you all
she'll be on a high for a few days after the prom time for you to catch your breath
no need to feel ashamed we are all here to listen and support anytime
love chris x

Awww Tina........................thank goodness for that.

I bet she looks wonderful in her prom, dress too:))

A fresh start for all of you.

xx

THANK YOU all so very much . Fantastic advice and lots to make me laugh.

I feel a bit ashamed to have a tantrum online, but was at my lowest for an hour or two, you all have made me feel very special by replying.

The update is...

I gave HIM two barrels and some... I'm not normally given to losing it, but felt justified. Told him I expected some support not indifference etc... If he wasn't such an **** (I think the term was Rear Orifice)
I would have felt sorry for him!

Anyway, I told her she would need me before I needed her and she had better think on.
It's her school prom tonight, so she must have thought about it after listening to what HE had to say to her on the subject... yes, he did the decent thing!

She came to me and apologised for using all my stuff and lying. This is actually a breakthrough, she normally would go to the grave holding on to that lie!

So, I dutifully took her to her school prom, all dressed in her finery..... like you do!

This child is the last of my 5, I have two other daughters and two son's. the other four put together are not anywhere near as high maitenance as she is!

Thank you all again.

Tina x x

Tuna (((((((hugs))))))) for a special lady.

As others have said, she is being a normal teen. I do know how you feel, my stepson was always in my things. I used to have to take my handbag in the loo with me!!

Learn some relaxation techniques to combat the stress, and we're all here if you need a shoulder.xxx

Tina Marie, I am afraid you have hit the normal teenage stage. Even the flesh and blood teens play dad and mum off against one another. What you have to make your husband understand is that you both have to stand together. She will grow out of it but it will take time. Possibly because you have health problems you feel more vunerable and she will pick up on this. If she has pocket money make her pay you back for what she has taken( stolen) taking without consent is stealing and a theif and a liar has to be stopped. Elaine. ps got Tiscali sorted thanks to you.