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Seems like some of you work for much better employers than me!!

so glad they have seen sense and granted you what you asked for :-)

i was very lucky with my workplace when my dad died last year, i got way over 1 week off as paid compassionate leave and at first came and went as i wanted
i then got 2 days of for his funeral (the actual funeral day and the one after)

I am so pleased you have got the leave Maggy, where i work we are allowed a months compassionate leave for a very close relative.


Love and hugs and strength to you for Monday,


Caz xxx

One last nudge for the night shift!

Maggy...so pleased that you got the extra time off, as far as going in after the funeral, make the decision on the day, I have a member of staff who wanted to come back the day immediately after the funeral of her sister as ''she needed to take her mind off things and be amongst people''...whatever you do take care...Col x

Hi Maggy

If you don't feel up to work, then see your doc & get signed off a week, for "grief stress". That way your work has to pay you, but it won't go on your record as work related stress.

Thinking of you Monday.
xx

Someone asked me at work today, will I be working next week (the funerals Monday). I never really thought about not going in to work Tuesday, but if I don't feel like I can face it I'm afraid it will be a sick note this time!

Sorry for your loss, I've been off the boards for a couple of weeks!
We are allowed 5 compassionate a year then we have to take annual or unpaid leave! a lot of folks just go to their Gp and get a sick note when its something like waht has happened with you. No Gp would refuse. Pity your employers aren't just as sympathetic!!
You take care no
Godbless
Carol

So glad that you stuck to your guns and you got the unpaid leave.

Maybe in future your line mananger will have a bit more compassion now.

Now you have that off your shoulders.have a break and make a cuppa and relax.
Hugs
Sue

Thanks Ann. Hope she's realised that I am no push-over too!!

Dad would have been proud of me. He was a quiet man, but would always argue for what he thought was right.

Well done Maggie for standing your corner. glad you have got your leave. That was stress you didn't need. Hopefully your line manager will have learnt something from the exercise

Ann
Glos

Another update for you all.

I went into work today and got straight onto my H R Department. She was really supportive and said she didn't understand why I was being refused unpaid leave. Said she would get back to me. She has just phoned back and suddenly my line-manager has granted me 2 days unpaid leave plus 3 days paid bereavement leave. Success!!

Thanks to you all for your support. It really did help to convince me I was in the right, and if I am convinced I am right I will argue the toss forever!!

Thanks again.

Maggy,

I suppose that at least you know where you stand now. I would follow Sue's advice. Its hard enough losing your Dad, having to cope with additional stress imposed by a company you have served for so long is appalling.

Let us know how things go.

love Theresa

Maggy.

If you have to go down the sick note road then get at least 3 weeks off for Strees brought on by being called to the hospital and your Dad's passing.

Hugs for you and your Mum and family.
Sue

Maggy
Have followed this since yesteday and feel angry that you have to deal with this as well as the sad loss of your Dad.
In the NHS we get 3 days leave but also additional time though at our managers discretion. I think you are being treated appallingly but as Colin has already said, managers are poorly trained in implementing policies.
Hope you get this sorted before the funeral Monday.
Di

The 3 days your manager refers to is paid and is standard across industry, you are asking for additional unpaid compassionate leave and all managers in every business I have worked in are empowered to authorise this. Escalate to the company's HR department, many line managers are poorly trained (if at all) in policy surounding compassionate leave following a bereavement and if that doesnt do the trick, ask your GP for a note for 'stress reaction' to the death. You shouldn't be having to do all this at this difficult time

Got a slight update for you all. Saw my line-manager and apparently company policy says we are allowed 3 days bereavement leave for deaths, nothing more. I put my case over to her and she's going to get back to me (she says!).

Looks like being the sick-note option after all! I will not use my annual leave.

Maggy,

Let us know how you get on today.

((Hugs))

love Theresa

Must admit that it is very tempting to tell them to shove their job at the minute!!

Will try to be calm tomorrow and listen to what she has to say first though...lol...

Maggy

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad

Love and Hugs toyou and your family

Jan x