General Chat

Honesty is very important to me - I was very hurt when i left a carrier bag full of my M&S purchases in on a hook in a ladies loo in Cheltenham, I returned minutes later and it was gone, and it was not handed in to security or adjacent shops. i was hurt because I couldn't believe anyone could be so dishonest. But is that dishonesty or stealing (one and the same?)

Strangely (and I only shop in Cheltenham occasionally, more usually shopping in Gloucester) a couple of weeks later I was in WH Sm**** and looking at magazines when I found a M&S carrier bag full of shopping on the floor...... I handed it in behind the till, hopefully the person would have returned and got it back.

I think a lot of people who those of us who are honest accuse of telling l.lies, are actually exaggerating the truth, it seems that they are maybe people with low self esteem and to exaggerate something, to make it more impressive is to gain admiration and raise their self esteem. A sort of follow on from childhood when children exaggerate how good they are at doing things and how big their Dad is etc.

what is worse to me is the person who lies about somebody else i.e. spreading rumours. I always think is somebody tells me a rumour about someone else, what are they saying to others about me?

Having said that, a little bit of tact is best to avoid hurting somebody sometimes, I don't like people who brag about their honesty by saying 'I tell it like it is, that's me'. They will be blunt to someone not minding about hurting their feelings, but ok they are being honest. is that good? I think not.

ann
Glos

honesty is a basic of human life in my opinion and as has been said on here earlier, only be economical with the truth if someone is likely to be hurt - also to be a liar you have to have a good memory or you'll shoot yourself in the foot - my feet are untouched!!!!

To make you fantastic Deana.....tsk...pmsl

I agree Susan.
I had a couple of friends who used to take me shopping for clothes.
It seemed that I was the only friend who would tell them the truth about how they looked.

What is the point of telling a friend... "oh yes, you look lovely... buy it" of they look awful in it?

Deanna X

Kitty I can keep a secret though,I have been told things by several people on sites that I go on and I have never told anyone else (nor will I) . If its a secret then it is filed away in my mind under "Never to be told". Lol


Maddyxx

I agree entirely. Honesty is essential as what is the point in anything else. I believe anything else is deluding ones' self. If anyone asks an opinion, I wil always say 'do you want an honest answer? and if they say yes I give it. Some people may prefer a false answer but lifes too short to play games.
The one exception may be if someone was very vulnerable and would suffer from the truth.
Sue

Yes I hate hypocrisy too.
We used to have this woman come to the house when we were younger.... no names!!
She would talk about every woman in the town who was sleeping with whom etc etc....
She was the biggest *bike* around. (tell me if that offends)
My husband said once.... "I wouldn't mind her talking about people if she didn't believe just how innocent she is herself."

Deanna X

Hi Tory,

Yes honesty is vital, to be let down by someone you trust is the worst feeling ever. I could not lie but agree that the tact one is a little tricky lol!!

As was said, we dont all know each other off here, but lots of us do and I have trusted people with things close to my heart, only been let down once.

Caz xx

There is a women I wont call her afriend..but she is a very good friend of a friend..we have known her years...you know when she is lying as her lips are moving......it got to the point where I just couldn't stand to be in her company.....we went to the casion one night and she won £25.00 ...by the time we got back to our local she had would £75.00 and by the end of the night she had won £100..why ? What did she gain and it was'nt £75.00 was it ?
My friend put it down to her upbringing ....she is now in her 50's and has well her and her OH have work hard....so does she still need to tell these lies ? She does however think she is a cut above everyone....its pittiful really...

I don't like being lied to either.

I used to be so honest that if you said the queen was your cousin.. I would have believed you.

Why would you lie to me?
I wouldn't lie to you.

Got over that as I got older.

I have broken friendships because of lies.

Deanna X

I do not consider Santa, the Easter Bunny, or the Tooth fairy lying.

LOL.....yes I agree with family...maybe a bit more tactful with friends....being a leo...you just say it as you see it...lol

Cutetiddlelypoo, it is a little different with sisters/ daughters. Tact is the better or softer answer. But being a Libra I won't hurt anyones feelings, but would draw the line at a outright lie. Too soft for my own good at times.

Being honest is very Important,but it depends on your motive for being honest.

Do you think I was being tactful CP ?

Honesty is definietly two way thing :)

As far as dress sense and things like that go........it's called TACT, but am with you on the honesty, as someone else quoted you know where you are with a thief. Good morning to you all.

honesty is very important-but like uggers said, you have never met any of us so it's ok to say we are, but you never know do you.?

Personally honesty to me is very important-can't be doing with liars and manipulative people-there's a few on here for deffo-they would make pinnoccio look like safe.
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xx

Kitty same here i rabbit on and on as i dont do lying things just gets said as it is like you i do stop to think more i would hate to hurt any bodys feelings

Joan G

I can't be doing with lyers and why should ..I .and I am with Puss with the Hypocrisy bit as well....oh what a wicked webb we weave when at first you start to deceive....as the bit the dress being too tight I would rather be told the truth than waste my money...a few weeks a go my sister was buying a top and I told her it was very nice but the style was wrong for her big belly....she insisted on trying it on and then agreed with me.....pays to be truthful I learnt that at a very early age by retuning someones purse with all her christmas shopping money in it..

You can lock up from a thief, you cant from a liar.

also i am with Maddy and blue eyes.

Joan G