General Chat

Harry, My great grand-daughter is mad about footbal at 6 she goes to Man.U. matches (home) with grandad and loves it she goes to the local to watch matches on sky now that there is no smoking and enjoys it she has several jerseys all her team of course, football boots and likes to kid a ball around, the the nest minute she's all girlie girlie and very fashion consious. Also got a grandson 9 supports Liverpool, plays golf and the trumpet in the school band. Accept the little one for what she is, a beautiful gift she'll have her own character and you'll fall more in love with her each time you see her. All the best to you all. xxx May.

My husband only wanted boys, but they don't come to order do they?

First 2 were boys, (which I was proud of) then I really wanted another (hoping for a girl-) and hey presto she was (husbands face at the birth was a picture, but he loves her to bits and puffs up his chest with pride whenever she achieves anything ( She's a clever clogs).....then had another boy six years later!

Im sure he'll be the same with the grandchildren - wanting the first to be a boy- think it must be implanted in men at birth!

Just so grateful to have my grandchildren as three of them are IVF babies that I didn't really care but with 3 grandsons to get a grand-daughter was lovely. We have twins in that lot so double the blessing. Congrats to the new grandparents.
Sue xx

That is lovely Eileen, congratulations to your daughter and family on baby Anna Sofia......have a lovely time....x

Harry, I am like the others, just interested in the safe arrival of a healthy baby......boy or girl, you can still have fun......my youngest son has 3 lovely little daughters, and the only thing he worries about is a 'petticoat government' when they grow up a bit.....lol....

Welcome to this wonderful world Anna Sofia and congratulations to you Eileen and to everyone:-) BC XX

I have to confess that I really wanted my twin pregnancy to be boys.. they were so I wasn't disappointed. I only really wanted boys as I had a daughter and two neices.
I would, of course, loved them just as much if they had been girls. I ended up with 3 girls and two boys.

Many Congratulations on the birth of your Grandaughter, she will be the apple of your eye :o))

Thank you for those lovely replies
I knew you would all come on about football - hence my reference to Arsenal ladies - but you would not be denied.

My grand-daughter occasionally deigns to join us at football, but she prefers bat and ball games.
(my poem , which was on here a month or two ago, about grand-children, was in the Daily Mail, last week)

Happy days

personally, I wouldn't like to be that little girl with a grandfather who is disappointed in her before she has even begun to show how fantastic she is going to be! no offence

Didnt bother me one bit my daughter is now 12 weeks pregnant and I dont mind if the baby is a boy or girl as long as the little one is healthy.

When I had my children on my 2nd I did have a secret hope that it would be a girl not for my own preference but because my nan was one of those people who are more for boys than girls and I was afraid that she would reject my eldest as soon as I had a son, my son was born and my nan was more for my son until I told her one day that she either treats them both the same or not at all, she realised what she had been doing and did change her ways.

A baby brings their love no matter what sex they are and whats to say that a boy will want to play football and a girl wouldnt.

Congratulations on the birth of your little grandaughter xxxxx

Jax xx

Congratulation Grandpa Harry ,,

what parents have is totally different to when its a grandchild and know where you are coming from,,,,,,,,,I was hoping for a little granson but got a g/daughter,,,,,,loved her from a bump,as she was just called the ---Baby,--then when I saw her never gave it another thought,,,,,,,,,
You will forget all about it once you have a cuddle,,,

Harry I have two son's and two daughters all were beautiful children and now great adults, all have children of their own a mixture of two boys and five girls between them.
My first child son was not at all interested in Football or Sport although we did try to encourage him to be, but he was more into mechanics, and building models, radio controlled cars ect.
2nd Child daughter wanted to be a dancer into Gymnastics,Skating,Acting,dancing ect.
3rd Child daughter not interested in the singing,dancing,acting she just went along because her sister went.
4th Child Son became a Pro Footballer, not interested in Mechanical things at all, just wanted to play football.
We love all our children and grandchildren whatever interest they have, we try to encourage them and I am sure once you get used to your little person you will love her so much.

Carolx

Congratulations Harry:-) She will wrap you round her dainty little finger! lol BC XX

I'd like to congratulate you on the birth of your granddaughter Harry ,
i have 3 children and have 8 grandchildren.
6 grandsons and 2 granddaughters
and i love em all
Hazelx

Harry, i quite understand where you are coming from - I would love grandchildren and for me a little girl would be the choice, but I would love any little one as you do too I am sure.
I know the momentary feeling of disappointment, as I was convinced I was having a girl when I was pregnant in the 80's. Having lost my daughter who was born ten weeks prem and lived for just three days, I was sure I was carrying this baby the same way and got girly things ready, only to deliver a boy. Due to my age and circumstances, I was fairly sure this would be my one and only child, I was right, and for 'it' to be a boy instead of the girl I was hoping for, was a bitter disappointment. However once I got over the surprise, I loved my son to bits and still do, he is 25 and we are very close, and he is a great lad.
Yes, I still yearn for my daughter, a daughter, to do the girly things with but it wasn't to be, and I am lucky to have a son who is my pride and joy.
He actually likes shopping and we have fun doing the charity shops together some times and I hope when he decides to settle down, in the not too distant future as I am getting older by the year, he helps produce a brood of grandchildren girls and boys to let me spoil.
Hope your new little granddaughter has a long, happy and healthy life full of love, friendship and football too if it turns out to be her thing loll
Lizx

I would dearly love a grandchild - boy or girl, wouldn't care, but I ain't going to be getting one - sobs uncontrollably!!!!!

Congratulation on the birth of you granddaughter and lots of happy days Valxxx

Two things arising from the comments. My eldest son has one of each, which is possibly the ideal.
My youngest son/wife lost their first child in the womb, so this outcome is particularly good - but I still think it is natural to have a slight preference.

Happy days (and may all your troubles be little ones0

I also agree we like to see a bit of ourselves in our children, so have the perception a girl is like mum and a boy is like dad...think its natural, its what we en visualise :o))

Harry I admire you for your honesty :o))

I diddnt want to know what I was carrying both times, and when Kyle was born I was overjoyed, but still had a few moments of reflection thinking "No pink things". which lasted all of two seconds :o))

Also when he was born, hubby shouted YES !!!! (he had a daughter from his first marriage & diddnt mind what we had but I could sense that Kyle was his icing on the cake.)

Pregnancy two, I convinced myself I was carrying a boy and was happy about it, now i know its because I yearned for a girl I was so convinced she was going to be a he.

When she was born i couldn't believe it & kept on calling her "He" I was secretly even more overjoyed I was lucky to have one of each.

I would have been also overjoyed had I had two of the same sex as well. I was lucky to have had them, they are a privilege :o))

Ive a mate who has two boys, and sometimes with other mums, this sort of conversation comes round, and my mate says every time, "I'm glad ive only got boys, I dont really like girls" when I know its because she secretly wanted a girl and although loves her boys with a passion, feels guilty she still would have loved a girl...feels as if shes betraying her boys thinking that..

Just a brief comment, ask a parent who has lost a child, they miss that special connection one has with ones own blood - their arms are empty - their child is gone, their future. If another child is born after a child death, at delivery the only thing that is important is that the child is alive, and is yours, health can be treated, in the end the sex doesn't matter. This precious little girl will tug at your heart- strings, and before you know it she'll be wrapping you round her little finger.
BTW I have 3 granddaughters and one grandson.
No offence intended,
Mary