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I have never ever heard of such nonsense - the bride/groom/parents arrange a wedding and reception - such as they can afford. The buttonholes are only provided for the ushers/bride and groom's immediate families. As to £65 for accommodation - they either pay it or make their own arrangements - or stay away. You have already changed the venue 3 times for goodness sake. Stop trying to please everyone - in the end you will please nobody. All that is really needed is yourselves and two witnesses - whether you marry in church or registry office. Do what suits you and Malc - forget everyone else - and stick to it. Tell them anymore hassle and it will be a twosome plus 2 witnesses. Think of the wonderful things you could do with all the money you save!!!!!! You do not need pressies! I hate to say it but they sound like a selfcentred pack of so and so's. You have had your troubles and worries over the past months. Enjoy yourselves and best wishes and happiness to you both.

Forgot to say of course you wear your wedding dress to reception - whoever heard of a bride changing BEFORE the reception. I never did.

Tell them that if they dont like it dont come!! That will keep the costs down too!

Its your day spend it with those you love and who make you happy.

At least you managed to get three venues Malc - Im still trying to sort mine - these places seem never to come back to me.

I agree with everyone , Its yours and Malcs Day, NOT theirs! So tell them all to lump it or like it!!
All the very best for your future.
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How inconsiderate of people to upset you like that. Its is your day and NO ONE should critisize what you want to do.
Ignore them all and if it continues I would just say well don't come if your not happy with the venue. Would be less money you would have to spend on the reception. More to spend on yourselves.
Hope it all goes well for you both anyway and enjoy your years of happiness together

Hope your bet on the Greyhound wins if there is a race on the Day lol
Regards
Jackie

Everyone seems to agree on here.

It's nothing to do with anyone except you and Malc.

Enjoy your day

Linda x

They dont sound like nice people..who the hell ever heard of anyone saying what flowers they would like in their coursage?
Sure you want to invite them after all?

I think those people making a fuss are very selfish.
Go through everything you have arranged, make sure it is what you want and only you, and then confirm it all. Tell the guests that you have made the final decisions as it is your special day and if they don't like it, they can lump it!
Then go ahead and have a super day, wear your dress as long as you feel comfy.
Hope you find time to enjoy yourselves, on the day, stop and take a breath every now and then to let it all sink in.
Lizx

Nothing new to say hun, just to reiterate what everyone else is saying

It's YOUR special day, do what YOU want to do. You'll regret it if you don't!

have a wonderful day!

Laura

Oh Jackie, don't you know you should never try to please the rest... the only person you have to worry about pleasing is your OH. It is your wedding after all and no one else's.

If they don't like it they can lump it.

Congrats on your forthcoming nuptials and I hope it all goes wonderfully for you and oh.

Have to agree with everyone else Jackie and Malc. It's your day, how dare these people interfere!! Have the wedding that you want, and if they don't like it, well tough!

Hope you both have a lovely day whatever you decide.

It is yours and Malcs day Jackie do whatever it is that you want. If they don't like it they can stay away. I guarentee (spl?:-) you won't miss them,
something on the same lines happened at my daughters ended up none of my brothers family came you know we didn't miss them one bit. It was a lovely day even though it was my daughters day I still get goose bumps thinking about it.
So forget them concentrate on yourselves.
Have a wonderful wonderful day
Germaine.
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Its yours and malcs day

So if people aren't happy..........................Tough

Its you two that matter


Have a wonderful day, you both deserve it

Jan x

It's your wedding don't have regrets by trying to please others do it Your Way must agree with Sue in Leeds Gretna would solve your problems our son did that it was a lovely wedding few family and a reception after the honeymoon for everyone else --- great!
Good luck to you both keep smiling!

Norah

It's your wedding, just enjoy it, and ignore the lot of them.

Jackie,

It is your day so b****r everyone else...It is a day for you to be happy with the man you want to spend your life with.

I had endless problems with my wedding, neither of our parents were there....So what!

We did what we wanted to and thirty years later are still together..

Do your own thing girl...and in years to come you will know that your wedding day was a happy one...

All the best to both of you..

Lindy ;)))))))))))))))

Have to agree with what everyone else has said. It is your BIG day and you should spend it how you both want.

I hope you both enjoy your day and make it a memorable one for you both. You are the important ones, everyone else is a supporting actor, so go for it.

Frances x

Thanks to everyone for your replies. Has certainly made us feel better knowing that we are doing the right thing by trying to please ourselves now.

Jackie

We were going to marry in church and thats when the arguments started i was lapsed catholic oh was church of england everyone had to put their twopennorth ended up cancelled it and just buggared off to registeru office with two best friends as witnesses then invited all family out to pub at night.
we have been married 41 years in April.
IT IS YOUR DAY DO WHAT YOU WANT AND SOD EVERYONE ELSE
Love Jackie

Hi Jackie
Its a pity that when someone is like yourself and willing to try and change or compromise to make everyone happy,that people take advantage to try and get there own way.
Everyone is right,this is one of the very few days in a persons life that you get to have things all your own way
Enjoy it,its your day
The only decision you need to make now is wether to tell people to Butt out nicely or with force LOL
Once you have done that just try and relax as much as you can,you will have a wonderful day
Regards Tania

Jackie/Malc, stop trying to please everyone. it is your wedding, you do what you want to and enjoy it.

Ann
Glos