General Chat

~~~~~~ to the lovely BC

xxLynnxx

like i said Liz, all i was asking was for us all to be aware of others, treat each other with a little respect, common curtesy and be civil with each other

manners maketh the man and a smile is always more beautiful than a scowl

hugs sweetie
Lynn xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Well said, Susan. In fact that is what a lot of us "oldies" have been doing, over time, trying to keep the boards stable, light hearted, but not boring. But from time to time, as we know, things will blow up and get out of hand. The thing is to try and get back to "normal"as soon as possible and hope that not many people have been affected or hurt. But I do understand, as in Gwynne's case, when we are dealing with unhappiness or sickness or have huge other worries, then reading some posts on here, at certain times, can indeed be sickening. And this is no reflection on any one person, I hasten to add.

Let us try and make it work. BC XXX

Gwynne glad to hear you're not totally leaving, you would be missed.

I probably see more of some of the nastiness being around at night when things often kick off, but I must have missed this last night! I thought the boards had been a good place lately but last Friday night there was some upset again, added to by people coming along who usually stay away. It seems every so often someone decides things are too happy so they need to stir the mire! The only way to deal with that is to ignore the stirrers, not to jump in and defend the boards or certain people, it often makes things worse and if the stirrers have to keep posting to themselves, then eventually they might get bored of getting no reaction and go back to the holes they crawled out of. Yet more and more people add to defend or say their piece and before you know it hasty words are being said, and people are disagreeing and falling out.
I hope Gwynne you will keep looking in as you say you will, and eventually be tempted to post again.
We have lots of newbies here now and they haven't a clue about the ins and outs of the boards, and it must be hard for them to know what is happening. I know when I first started posting, almost 3 years ago, I found the boards a bit cliquey but me being me, I just jumped in and posted till I found my feet and made friends. I soon realised who I seemed to have a rapport with and who not, and carried on accordingly.

As I have said before, if people keep leaving because they are unhappy with the way things are going, then they are playing into the hands of those stirrers who want to feel they 'own' the boards. Freedom of speech is fine so we must all make sure we stick around to keep things that way and not be dictated to by a few meanies.

Lizxx

Sorry you feel like that Gwynne as you will be missed.

Perhaps, just an idea mind you, the older members, instead of leaving, could help us all re-build. The way I see it is that we need a consistency of normality even through the odd skirmish.

Early hours this morning I saw another thread by a newbie. I and others welcomed her....but one of the things I said was that there were not many about at that time in the morning......boy was I wrong....she was welcomed by many I don't usually see. My point is, there are many who would like to join in and need to see normality before they do....we need help from old and new alike to join the boards in, if not friendship, at least civility. I know we can do this, and need the help of all GR board members.....don't leave....ignore the not so nice threads and help get GR back on it's feet. Eventually civility will reign.

Sorry, I do go on a bit when I have something to say lol

Susan
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Hello my slightly bigger pal :o)))

i know, how your feeling sweetheart, and you know, as ive said many times recently, im here, if and when needed,
would just hate this board to lose a little gem thats all

see you friday lovely,

xxLynnxx

Gwynne - sorry you are feeling so sad, hope things pick up for you really soon. Take care, you are another voice of reason:o)))

jude :o) xx

Awww Gwynne....................I hope you find happiness soon, sorry you are feeling so low at the moment.

(((((hug)))) for you

xx

Lynn, you are such a sweetie and thanks to my friends for saying nice things.

I'm not in a very happy place right now as you know and I was so saddened and disappointed to see what was happening when I logged in fairly late last night. It made me feel sick, if I'm honest.

I don't know the truth of the matter under discussion but I do know that people suspended for abuse do rejoin with different names and GR seem unable to do anything to stop it. It's something I would never defend, whoever does it, as I've said before many times.

Last night was like watching sharks circling for a feeding frenzy and very disturbing.

I'm bewidered by what the GC/GR community has become and, right now, I neither feel part of it nor want to feel part of it. I have enough unhappiness in my life as it is.

I'm not leaving totally, Lynn, fret not. I'll be here every morning to read your thoughts.

Gwynne
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Hi Lynn

Those are very wise words.
Just wish everyone would take notice.

Hugs
Sue

Lynn,You can be as gentle as you like with me,whenever.xxxx.**M**.:o)))>

Hi Lynn

You have put that so well, I totally agree with you.

I also think of Gwynne as the 'voice of reason' and it would be so sad if she, and others like her, were to feel that it's not worth posting any more.

Mandy x

i agree hun

id much rather people ignored each other than jump up and down


luv n hugs
stray
xxx

Thank you Lynn and Ann for those quotations.

I was saddened last night..................it was a kind of point scoring again.

I agree that these boards are big enough for everyone and have never once had any disagreements with anyone who posted on that thread....................as far as I know they are all valuable members.

It is sad that anyone feels they have to stop posting for any reason..................I sincerely hope they think again and add to the boards as normal.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and viewpoints and we need to learn to respect them even though we can't always agree with what they say.

It is difficult, but not impossible.

xx

Well said Lynn

Regards
Jackie

lovely thoughts Lynn - well you ain't losing me - unless you want to of course

Hi Lynn, a lovely quote and so true....

Yes we are not all perfect and we often make mistakes. I've made some lovely friends during my time on this site. Where differences exist.. the boards are big enough to avoid to avoid possible conflicts.

Have a lovely day :))

Marion xxx

thank you Lynne, I don't come on here uually after 10pm ish so always miss a lot of the hassle. Yes I was watching yesterday evening and feeling a little uncomfortable with the way things seemed to be going but it was not really out of hand when I switched off so don't know if anything happened. i will be really sad if Gwynne doesn't come on here. lovely lady and always so reasonable.

ann
Glos

I hope guinevere doesn't give up posting, she usually says the right thing at the right time - something we all need to learn how to do.

Gill