General Chat

Hello my slightly bigger pal :o)))

i know, how your feeling sweetheart, and you know, as ive said many times recently, im here, if and when needed,
would just hate this board to lose a little gem thats all

see you friday lovely,

xxLynnxx

Sorry you feel like that Gwynne as you will be missed.

Perhaps, just an idea mind you, the older members, instead of leaving, could help us all re-build. The way I see it is that we need a consistency of normality even through the odd skirmish.

Early hours this morning I saw another thread by a newbie. I and others welcomed her....but one of the things I said was that there were not many about at that time in the morning......boy was I wrong....she was welcomed by many I don't usually see. My point is, there are many who would like to join in and need to see normality before they do....we need help from old and new alike to join the boards in, if not friendship, at least civility. I know we can do this, and need the help of all GR board members.....don't leave....ignore the not so nice threads and help get GR back on it's feet. Eventually civility will reign.

Sorry, I do go on a bit when I have something to say lol

Susan
x

I probably see more of some of the nastiness being around at night when things often kick off, but I must have missed this last night! I thought the boards had been a good place lately but last Friday night there was some upset again, added to by people coming along who usually stay away. It seems every so often someone decides things are too happy so they need to stir the mire! The only way to deal with that is to ignore the stirrers, not to jump in and defend the boards or certain people, it often makes things worse and if the stirrers have to keep posting to themselves, then eventually they might get bored of getting no reaction and go back to the holes they crawled out of. Yet more and more people add to defend or say their piece and before you know it hasty words are being said, and people are disagreeing and falling out.
I hope Gwynne you will keep looking in as you say you will, and eventually be tempted to post again.
We have lots of newbies here now and they haven't a clue about the ins and outs of the boards, and it must be hard for them to know what is happening. I know when I first started posting, almost 3 years ago, I found the boards a bit cliquey but me being me, I just jumped in and posted till I found my feet and made friends. I soon realised who I seemed to have a rapport with and who not, and carried on accordingly.

As I have said before, if people keep leaving because they are unhappy with the way things are going, then they are playing into the hands of those stirrers who want to feel they 'own' the boards. Freedom of speech is fine so we must all make sure we stick around to keep things that way and not be dictated to by a few meanies.

Lizxx

Gwynne glad to hear you're not totally leaving, you would be missed.

Well said, Susan. In fact that is what a lot of us "oldies" have been doing, over time, trying to keep the boards stable, light hearted, but not boring. But from time to time, as we know, things will blow up and get out of hand. The thing is to try and get back to "normal"as soon as possible and hope that not many people have been affected or hurt. But I do understand, as in Gwynne's case, when we are dealing with unhappiness or sickness or have huge other worries, then reading some posts on here, at certain times, can indeed be sickening. And this is no reflection on any one person, I hasten to add.

Let us try and make it work. BC XXX

like i said Liz, all i was asking was for us all to be aware of others, treat each other with a little respect, common curtesy and be civil with each other

manners maketh the man and a smile is always more beautiful than a scowl

hugs sweetie
Lynn xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

~~~~~~ to the lovely BC

xxLynnxx

nudge because i think its worth it
xxlynnxx

Thanks, friends, and thanks also for the pms which arrived after I went to bed.

I'm not leaving GR, I just don't feel comfortable posting here at the moment.

I know I'm not alone in that feeling which is a help.

Gwynne

as long as you always add to my morning threads Gwynne or at least read them

lots of people feel the same i know, but the mornings are always lovely,

see you on friday lovely lady,
want to give my lovely special friend a huge hug :o)))

your slightly smaller pal xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

And I have said before, it takes at least two people to argue. If you feel a uncomfortable situation starting, delete your post and withdraw from the thread !

I have never written anything abusive on these boards, Laptop Dancer. Your post could imply that I have. I was commenting on a thread I read and to which I didn't add.

Gwynne

Guinevere I wasn't implying that you had ! (another example of how a post can be misunderstood)
It was merely a suggestion to all that if a thread becomes undesirable then people should delete their posts and very soon the abuser is shouting down an empty tunnel.
(It was use of the royal "you")

Thank you for clarifying that, LD.

Unfortunately, a few people enjoy the spite so that will never happen.

Gwynne

If I post a thread and do not like the way it's going I delete it. If I start a conversation I feel I have the right to end it !
Quite a few people will add innocently to a thread asking it to stop but of course that is only adding to the abuser's ego !
Maybe GR should issue us with stun guns !

Ive been a peacekeeper on the boards for a long long time and seen many a frustration build up over that time because someone or another has never been allowed to put the way they feel accross.

I tend to listen before I make a comment, look for solutions and mediate where people allow it to.
Rarely do I become involved in heated discussion unless I feel the need to defend and then I defend without fear or favour.

There has been a divide for some time now and I have repeatedly stated that this place is big enough for everyone, all they need to do is make their own space, enjoy that space and not cross into anothers space to deliberately wind up another. We can all see that happens and it sometimes becomes embarrassing to so that we feel uncomfortable.

On the whole this site has always been a lovely place to spend sometme with friends or meet and get to know people.

Everyones lovely in their own particular way, :):)

Well, Budgie, why did you feel the need to post that?

If you think I have ever been abusive please tell me when. For years I've tried to keep the peace on the boards.

I've never had a post deleted, never sent or received a nasty pm.

I'm actually a nice person, Budgie, and I don't deserve snide remarks from you.

Gwynne

Budgie

Yet again you come wading in with your snide remarks, and then next you'll be trying to say that people are taking you the wrong way.

Why post that on a thread that is trying to make and keep the peace? There are some really lovely, genuine people on this site and idiots like you who open their mouths without putting their brain in gear upset them.

Shame on you.

Good morning all. Gwynne, I am sure neither Budgie nor Laptop Dancer meant to have a go at you. Their comments were in general, I am sure. We all know that you are a peacekeeper and a nice person. BC XX

*bewildered.....or do I have my rose tinted glasses on as usual?